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Anonymous wrote:Where do you find men like these? Via friends? Social groups?

The honest, ambitious, funny, respectful men were most likely the guys you ignored in your college years/20s while chasing after bad boys. The men you'd like to date now are all taken.

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Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

I eventually ended up with that without meaning to, had good instinct. At the time friends said I could do better, that I was reaching below my level. 20 years on, he is rising and has become massively good looking( no more nerd with suspenders) and I am on my way down. Now that he seasoned, women checks him out all the time but he is woefully unaware. Meanwhile, I have gotten the high end house, the car, the vacations, the fine jewelry, kids and I business class travel, club membership and I never have to ask or remind him of anything I want. I am definitely on my way down while he gets better looking each year that passes yet, he thinks the sun rise and set on me LOL. He definitely has the swag to get a better, newer model. I wonder if he is going to wake up one day and decide I'm a hag, however, he has always been more attached to me than me to him.

Why don't you work on your self-esteem. Nothing more unattractive than low self-esteem in a woman.

I do not have low self esteem, and I don't need to fakely think I'm all that either. I am middle age so I'm being realistic. He has increasingly got better looking since our 20's. When we met he was overweight, badly dressed, with a terrible haircut. But now he is tailored suits, washboard stomach, a mature face handsome and so on. Now, I get complements all the time by friends and strangers about how good looking he is. I can honestly say he is mostly unaware of his looks. He has gotten better looking than I am. You all would think I am lazy and he's an idiot if you knew all the things he has done for me. He brags to anyone who will listen that I'm the reason we are successful, when it is actually his drive and persistent.

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Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

$100k may cut it in flyover country, but DC Demanding Dames need at least $200k. $300k if you don't want her to freeze you out after the 2.1 kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Not only do we exist, but some of us are even in our early 40s (gasp!). You've just got to make yourself available and notice who's around you when you're out and about.

Are you available? Where do you and friends like you hang out?

Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

I eventually ended up with that without meaning to, had good instinct. At the time friends said I could do better, that I was reaching below my level. 20 years on, he is rising and has become massively good looking( no more nerd with suspenders) and I am on my way down. Now that he seasoned, women checks him out all the time but he is woefully unaware. Meanwhile, I have gotten the high end house, the car, the vacations, the fine jewelry, kids and I business class travel, club membership and I never have to ask or remind him of anything I want. I am definitely on my way down while he gets better looking each year that passes yet, he thinks the sun rise and set on me LOL. He definitely has the swag to get a better, newer model. I wonder if he is going to wake up one day and decide I'm a hag, however, he has always been more attached to me than me to him.

Why don't you work on your self-esteem. Nothing more unattractive than low self-esteem in a woman.

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Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

I eventually ended up with that without meaning to, had good instinct. At the time friends said I could do better, that I was reaching below my level. 20 years on, he is rising and has become massively good looking( no more nerd with suspenders) and I am on my way down. Now that he seasoned, women checks him out all the time but he is woefully unaware. Meanwhile, I have gotten the high end house, the car, the vacations, the fine jewelry, kids and I business class travel, club membership and I never have to ask or remind him of anything I want. I am definitely on my way down while he gets better looking each year that passes yet, he thinks the sun rise and set on me LOL. He definitely has the swag to get a better, newer model. I wonder if he is going to wake up one day and decide I'm a hag, however, he has always been more attached to me than me to him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

I eventually ended up with that without meaning to, had good instinct. At the time friends said I could do better, that I was reaching below my level. 20 years on, he is rising and has become massively good looking( no more nerd with suspenders) and I am on my way down. Now that he seasoned, women checks him out all the time but he is woefully unaware. Meanwhile, I have gotten the high end house, the car, the vacations, the fine jewelry, kids and I business class travel, club membership and I never have to ask or remind him of anything I want. I am definitely on my way down while he gets better looking each year that passes yet, he thinks the sun rise and set on me LOL. He definitely has the swag to get a better, newer model. I wonder if he is going to wake up one day and decide I'm a hag, however, he has always been more attached to me than me to him.

Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP wants is a "four-six" man.

6' feet tall
6-figure salary
6-pack
6" cock

Anonymous wrote:Not only do we exist, but some of us are even in our early 40s (gasp!). You've just got to make yourself available and notice who's around you when you're out and about.

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Anonymous wrote:I suspect "ambitious" really means "makes at least $150k now and will make $300k by mid-40s." And don't have a BMI above 23.

No kidding. My husband is actually honest, funny, and respectful, and he's very ambitious in his career field--always looking for ways to build his resume, networking, positioning himself for more responsibility, actively seeking promotions and new jobs with more authority and scope, but he just doesn't make that kind of money, and he never will, because that's not par for his field (which he loves). Ask yourself, would you really want a guy who was truly ambitious but was never going to make a lot of money, or a guy who made a ton of money without working very hard and was content to coast on that? I suspect that many people who say they want an "ambitious" partner think it's a nice way of saying that they want someone who works to make a lot of money.