Op dont be such a nutcracker. If youre that concerned about him being attracted to the au pair you probably shouldnt be married to him.

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Anonymous wrote:Must be a lot of au pairs posting. My 8 yo knows when someone is dressed inappropriately. If my DH did this, I'd think he was joking. He'd know there's no way in hell I'd hire someone like that for a personal or professional position. I'm right with you, OP!

Nope, 42 year old, slightly overweight mom of a 4 year old.

Wouldn't want someone to judge me what I look like for a job interview, but if I'm the best person for the job.

It's ok OP if you hate equal rights for women - it's anonymous here.

It's not a question of looks or equal rights, it's about understanding how to dress for the position you want.. I don't care what your physical features are but if you don't know enough to dress appropriately then you really wouldn't be a good fit in the position and I wouldn't hire you. It's the same for a man. If a guy isn't dressed appropriately for an interview his chances of being hired are just as poor.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting how it's assumed these girls even want anything to do with your old ass husband. And the perpetual naivety with regards to keeping your men away from the good looking women never ceases to amaze me. Typically the men aren't cheating with the knockouts.

That's actually true. The OP has nothing to worry about when it comes to actual fucking, probably. But...

I'm not the OP, but I feel like if I was in her shoes, I wouldn't really be worried about my husband fucking the au pair. Even if he was insanely attractive to young women (he's not), and even if he had no morals (he does have morals), getting involved with the au pair would just be so, so, so stupid. Even for the most brazen King of All Assholes. The au pair lives under the same roof! There's no hiding it from the wife! It would last 15 minutes before the shit hit the fan in a truly epic way.

What would bother me in the OP's shoes is living with a man who is constantly staring down the shirt of a younger woman under my nose, under my roof. The feeling that I am competing with her for his attention, and can never win simply because I'm older. And it would do a number on my marriage to watch him ogle a young woman who is away from her country and probably pretty vulnerable, just in general. That is gross and creepy and a man worth his salt doesn't do that kind of thing.

Not to mention, I already compare myself to every woman I see out in the world, can I have some peace to feel beautiful in my own damn home?

That's kind of how I'm interpreting it for the OP, anyway.

The OP's DH apparently would at least throw the idea out there that the best au pair is the one showing the most cleavage. If a gorgeous au pair is in the house, he's obviously going to drool over her. So the OP is right not to want that whole weird dynamic in the house. Even though in reality, yeah, the au pair is probably not a direct threat in that way.

Interesting how it's assumed these girls even want anything to do with your old ass husband. And the perpetual naivety with regards to keeping your men away from the good looking women never ceases to amaze me. Typically the men aren't cheating with the knockouts.

Did you even ask why your husband thinks she is great?

Doing the help rarely has anything to do with looks. Men fuck anything.

The appearance of an au pair is the least of your problems. Have you had a very candid conversation with the agency about the "3 month" problem when all the au pairs fall apart and get a little nutty? They are immersed in a different culture and often language for 3 months and they often snap and some crisis follows. Get a nanny. It costs about the same and you will have far fewer problems. BTDT

Anonymous wrote:What 8 year says that shit?

I'm sorry, but that and your weird hostility make this unbelievable.

An 8 year old who has watched all 5 seasons of The Voice and is into fashion.

What 8 year says that shit?

I'm sorry, but that and your weird hostility make this unbelievable.

OP here. It's not that's she's pretty. If she were gorgeous and dressed well, I would actually think that is a good role model for my kids. But very low cut shirt and leaning forward for the camera a la Christina Agiilera on The Voice? Just no.

If my DH wants that he'll have to divorce me. I dress well but not slutty in public and I don't believe in implants. If he wants to trade me in for a different model or chase something he's missing as you suggest, fine, but don't do it by bringing that into the home and fucking up the kids by taking up with the au pair. Man up and serve me the papers if that's what you want.

Can you afford a professional nanny?

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Anonymous wrote:Must be a lot of au pairs posting. My 8 yo knows when someone is dressed inappropriately. If my DH did this, I'd think he was joking. He'd know there's no way in hell I'd hire someone like that for a personal or professional position. I'm right with you, OP!

Yeah, these videos are basically job interviews - a piece of a job interview, anyway. You don't have to put on business attire (in fact that would be weird for an au pair) but you need to treat it with some seriousness. Otherwise I'm going to assume you're not serious about getting the job. Which means I certainly don't want you watching my kids.

Ah DC, the lack of understanding about foreign cultures. Maybe this IS her nicest outfit. You realize she maybe (gasp) poor!

If you want Mary Poppins, pay for it.

You don't have to be wealthy to cover your boobs. Don't assume poor means stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Must be a lot of au pairs posting. My 8 yo knows when someone is dressed inappropriately. If my DH did this, I'd think he was joking. He'd know there's no way in hell I'd hire someone like that for a personal or professional position. I'm right with you, OP!

Yeah, these videos are basically job interviews - a piece of a job interview, anyway. You don't have to put on business attire (in fact that would be weird for an au pair) but you need to treat it with some seriousness. Otherwise I'm going to assume you're not serious about getting the job. Which means I certainly don't want you watching my kids.

Ah DC, the lack of understanding about foreign cultures. Maybe this IS her nicest outfit. You realize she maybe (gasp) poor!

If you want Mary Poppins, pay for it.

Anonymous wrote:Must be a lot of au pairs posting. My 8 yo knows when someone is dressed inappropriately. If my DH did this, I'd think he was joking. He'd know there's no way in hell I'd hire someone like that for a personal or professional position. I'm right with you, OP!

Nope, 42 year old, slightly overweight mom of a 4 year old.

Wouldn't want someone to judge me what I look like for a job interview, but if I'm the best person for the job.

It's ok OP if you hate equal rights for women - it's anonymous here.

Anonymous wrote:Must be a lot of au pairs posting. My 8 yo knows when someone is dressed inappropriately. If my DH did this, I'd think he was joking. He'd know there's no way in hell I'd hire someone like that for a personal or professional position. I'm right with you, OP!

Yeah, these videos are basically job interviews - a piece of a job interview, anyway. You don't have to put on business attire (in fact that would be weird for an au pair) but you need to treat it with some seriousness. Otherwise I'm going to assume you're not serious about getting the job. Which means I certainly don't want you watching my kids.