Anonymous
11/23/2013 13:50
Subject: What kind of condoms?
Anonymous wrote:We are now even buying our snowflakes' condoms for them? And I guess extra points for "lesbian mom." Never a dull moment around here.
It is not a new thing. Responsible parents always existed.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 13:05
Subject: What kind of condoms?
Please warn him about false rape allegations/mixed signals/no means no etc. That's the biggest speech we will give our son.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 11:52
Subject: What kind of condoms?
We are now even buying our snowflakes' condoms for them? And I guess extra points for "lesbian mom." Never a dull moment around here.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 20:30
Subject: What kind of condoms?
I grabbed a few different kinds and stuck them in an opaque lidded jar in the bathroom. Kept an eye on it and refilled as needed, since in our small town, it was difficult to purchase them
Anonymous
11/22/2013 19:09
Subject: What kind of condoms?
Trojan and depending on size might need magnum. But hopefully he uses the right size.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 19:06
Subject: Re:What kind of condoms?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will be like you OP. Iwill take my DD to a gynecologist, put her in some sort of bc and buy her condoms whiles at cvs.
My aunt would buy condo for her teen boys 15+ while doing groceries, that was 15-20years ago. I thought it was great and a young teen myself. My father otoh only gave me the speech to "come to him if/when I decided to have sex." Yeah, right!
You will "put her on birth control"? That doesn't seem very respectful of her bodily autonomy. Shouldn't she have a choice in the matter?
Of course she will have a choice on the matter. But I will steer her towards bc of course.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 19:04
Subject: Re:What kind of condoms?
Anonymous wrote:I will be like you OP. Iwill take my DD to a gynecologist, put her in some sort of bc and buy her condoms whiles at cvs.
My aunt would buy condo for her teen boys 15+ while doing groceries, that was 15-20years ago. I thought it was great and a young teen myself. My father otoh only gave me the speech to "come to him if/when I decided to have sex." Yeah, right!
You will "put her on birth control"? That doesn't seem very respectful of her bodily autonomy. Shouldn't she have a choice in the matter?
Anonymous
11/22/2013 14:09
Subject: What kind of condoms?
The kids like Trojans.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 14:06
Subject: What kind of condoms?
NP here. Good for you OP! Ignore the haters. I would say Trojan is the most popular, from what I see in the stores.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 13:22
Subject: Re:What kind of condoms?
I will be like you OP. Iwill take my DD to a gynecologist, put her in some sort of bc and buy her condoms whiles at cvs.
My aunt would buy condo for her teen boys 15+ while doing groceries, that was 15-20years ago. I thought it was great and a young teen myself. My father otoh only gave me the speech to "come to him if/when I decided to have sex." Yeah, right!
My aunt would buy condo for her teen boys 15+ while doing groceries, that was 15-20years ago. I thought it was great and a young teen myself. My father otoh only gave me the speech to "come to him if/when I decided to have sex." Yeah, right!
Anonymous
11/22/2013 11:53
Subject: What kind of condoms?
I think buying him an initial pack is a great idea, so even if he isn't active he can try out and feel confident in putting it on when the moment comes.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 10:18
Subject: What kind of condoms?
Female here and it took me years to comfortably buy tampons or condoms. I'd have a few around the house as backup.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 10:18
Subject: What kind of condoms?
Anonymous wrote:I disagree. You are infantilizing him by buying him condoms. Have a proper conversation, give him a few bucks, and send him off to CVS.
Which is more important to you?
1. Staying consistent with your position that if if a person wants to have condom-advisable sex, that person ought to be able to buy their own condoms.
2. Making sure that your child has condoms, in case your child decides to have condom-advisable sex.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 10:18
Subject: Re:What kind of condoms?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, let him purchase his own condoms. It can be your money, but he should be able to openly purchase condoms without being nervous or feeling weird about it.
Should be able to and would be able to are two different things. I would prefer that my son was confident enough to do so, but I'm not prepared to face the consequences if it turns out that he isn't.
If he isn't confident enough to purchase condoms, then he isn't confident enough to have sex. You can't baby and hold his hand forever. Give him the skills necessary which you are trying to do but he has to be able to perform the job.
Oh the imagery.
In reality, plenty of teens will have sex before they're confident enough to go out and buy condoms. What I do with my kids is provide them the warnings, advice, info, and an initial supply of condoms. It's all part of helping your kids prepare for life.
Agree with this. And we all know guys can be very immature. They often need more time to grow up than girls, and it's our job to help guide them, and to help prevent mistake that could impact them for a lifetime.
Anonymous
11/22/2013 10:15
Subject: What kind of condoms?
I disagree. You are infantilizing him by buying him condoms. Have a proper conversation, give him a few bucks, and send him off to CVS.