Anonymous wrote:Have him write a note or draw a picture with an apology to the kid he bit.
It's not a punishment. It's an apology for hurting someone.
(DC was bitten by a classmate in kindergarten and we all appreciated the handwritten note to say sorry.)[/quote
fwiw, my daughter is in K and one of the boys in class got in trouble for something he did to her -- the next day, he brought in a "I'm sorry" note with 2 pieces of candy. It went a long way with my daughter, and after that, she's said that they're friends.
I don't think it's too early for an apology like that.
Anonymous wrote:DS has lost privileges, mostly playing iPad at home for the 20 min or so between dinner and bath. We discuss why he had a bad day at school, what motivated his behavior but its not something that is front and center at home.
I had problems with DS focusing, following instructions and keeping his hands to himself at school. We enrolled him in Chinese martial arts and, while he has a rough day here and there, I have seen significant improvement in the last couple months. Since my son is very physical in his play, sometimes being aggressive, I wanted something with no physical contact and this fit the bill for us.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would most certainly give an at-home punishment as I want my children to know that I am on the same page as their teacher and that misbehavior in school is wholly unacceptable in our family.
I would also be having my child apologize to the teacher the following day and would work with them to write an apology letter to the other child.
This!
That teaches your kid that you don't approve, but it does nothing to help teach them HOW to regulate their emotions and behaviors.
The two aren't mutually exclusive. You can discipline your child AND teach them how to deal with emotions by talking through how they might handle it differently next time. My 4 year old has to write letters of apology and also has a consequence at home if I feel like they were truly misbehaving. It depends on the situation and the teacher. Usually DC's teacher gives a few warnings. If I get a call home, I know that DC was flat out disobeying.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would most certainly give an at-home punishment as I want my children to know that I am on the same page as their teacher and that misbehavior in school is wholly unacceptable in our family.
I would also be having my child apologize to the teacher the following day and would work with them to write an apology letter to the other child.
This!
That teaches your kid that you don't approve, but it does nothing to help teach them HOW to regulate their emotions and behaviors.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would most certainly give an at-home punishment as I want my children to know that I am on the same page as their teacher and that misbehavior in school is wholly unacceptable in our family.
I would also be having my child apologize to the teacher the following day and would work with them to write an apology letter to the other child.
This!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would most certainly give an at-home punishment as I want my children to know that I am on the same page as their teacher and that misbehavior in school is wholly unacceptable in our family.
I would also be having my child apologize to the teacher the following day and would work with them to write an apology letter to the other child.
This!
Anonymous wrote:I would most certainly give an at-home punishment as I want my children to know that I am on the same page as their teacher and that misbehavior in school is wholly unacceptable in our family.
I would also be having my child apologize to the teacher the following day and would work with them to write an apology letter to the other child.