Anonymous wrote:
I am co-parenting with a toxic ex - it's the reason I am divorced. I am three years out from launching my DD off to college, then I will not have to deal with the ex at all.
That's not really true. You'll have to deal with her
less when DD goes to college, but you will still have to deal with her a little. You and the ex will presumably both attend DD's college graduation, attend her wedding, and be grandparents to her children (assuming she has them). While this is not the same daily minefield of having young children together, it still involves a level of cooperation and civility.
Being able to navigate those situations with grace will make you more attractive to a grown up woman. Personally, I could deal with a toxic ex for the right man (especially if the children are on the older side, as is the case for you) but if HE can't deal with her, then I'm wary. As long as there are still people in the world you and the ex made together, you'll be at least vaguely in each other's orbit.