Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your ex to tell her himself.

Then OP, I strongly suggest therapy for you to look deeper at why you picked a father for your child who is just like the father you had, and what you can do for your DD so she does not continue the cycle with her own children.

Well aren't you a peach. Do you always kick people when they're down?

I agree with that post. These things have a way of turning into a cycle from one generation to the next.

Except that the title of OP's post wasn't "how do I prevent the cycle of absentee parenting?". Her question, and a good one, was how to diplomatically handle another individual's thoughtless behavior. Perhaps OP could benefit from therapy. I know some of my girlfriends who married complete @ssholes certainly could. But society doesn't breezily scold them about their poor choices because marriage, regardless of mate quality, is considered more acceptable in our society. Really, the infantilization of single mothers is quite insulting.

Also to add, I agree with him telling him her. I would tell him that the next time he cancels he will have to tell her directly himself. I feel like he has put all the stress of his shortcomings on you. Tell him to get on the phone with DD and explain why he is a loser father that can't make time to come see his child.

And since he has decided not to visit his child, maybe you need an increase in child support to cover the therapy she will need from his failure as a father.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your ex to tell her himself.

Then OP, I strongly suggest therapy for you to look deeper at why you picked a father for your child who is just like the father you had, and what you can do for your DD so she does not continue the cycle with her own children.

Well aren't you a peach. Do you always kick people when they're down?

I agree with that post. These things have a way of turning into a cycle from one generation to the next.