Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher and DC are same gender. DC says the teacher does not kiss other students and that this happens when other students can't see it. This apparently has happened more than once but I'm just now hearing about it from DC. I reiterated that our body is our private space and no one is allowed to touch us without our permission and that no one at school should be asking to do so.

The bolded is what would bother me. If a teacher is just super-affectionate, that's one thing (I don't think physical contact is always bad or anything) but the fact that it's just one kid and it's always in private would concern me some. You might ask your daughter what she thinks. Does she like it? Does it make her feel uncomfortable?

Unhygienic? You sound really uptight.

No.
I don't think it necessarily means the teachers molester or anything.
But I don't like it. It crosses a boundary and it is potentially unhygienic.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher and DC are same gender. DC says the teacher does not kiss other students and that this happens when other students can't see it. This apparently has happened more than once but I'm just now hearing about it from DC. I reiterated that our body is our private space and no one is allowed to touch us without our permission and that no one at school should be asking to do so.

this clarification comes with a bunch of warning bells. you need to take this up the chain, OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher and DC are same gender. DC says the teacher does not kiss other students and that this happens when other students can't see it. This apparently has happened more than once but I'm just now hearing about it from DC. I reiterated that our body is our private space and no one is allowed to touch us without our permission and that no one at school should be asking to do so.

If it's your daughter and the teacher is also a female then it's fine.

Is your child super well behaved?

The teacher could just love your child to bits for being the sweetest little thing who always pays attention and helps others as to opposed to a heathen like some of the other children.

Oh heavens no! This is not appropriate.

OP here. Teacher and DC are same gender. DC says the teacher does not kiss other students and that this happens when other students can't see it. This apparently has happened more than once but I'm just now hearing about it from DC. I reiterated that our body is our private space and no one is allowed to touch us without our permission and that no one at school should be asking to do so.

Anonymous wrote:
Our society has felt the need to draw pretty harsh boundaries on physical contact because of concerns over sexual abuse.
In general, this accords with the relatively "cold" anglo-saxon temperament which forms the basis of the US culture (and that might change over the next 100 years...).

In individual cases where you can know what's going on in the classroom and feel comfortable, then I would be fine with cheek kisses between a teacher and young child.

But I'm French. We kiss all the time!

French kiss would be inappropriate.

Like a forehead/top of the head kiss? A European style air kiss on both sides of the cheeks? What type of kiss?

If I felt comfortable with this teacher, then I would be ok with it. Are they just affectionate in general?

My child's teacher does this and I have no problem with it. I should qualify that she is special needs and she gets touched and picked up a lot in the course of the day due to her disabilities.

I just saw the post title and all I could think was fuck no.

Gross.

Maybe under 5. Anything older? Hell no.

Our society has felt the need to draw pretty harsh boundaries on physical contact because of concerns over sexual abuse.
In general, this accords with the relatively "cold" anglo-saxon temperament which forms the basis of the US culture (and that might change over the next 100 years...).

In individual cases where you can know what's going on in the classroom and feel comfortable, then I would be fine with cheek kisses between a teacher and young child.

But I'm French. We kiss all the time!