Anonymous wrote:Twenty minutes? Fifteen was the norm all through elementary for us. And someone said seven minutes in middle school -- we were told by the principal that our MS "conference" was actually a "stay in touch" thing where parents have "at most, two to three minutes" (her words) to ask questions -- and it's done with a line of other parents standing right there behind you waiting for their turn. Then you rotate to your child's other teachers. So the sympathy for the "shortness" of a 20-minute conference is rather lost on me.
Word of advice if you're a parent of an elementary kid: Go in PREPARED. Know what your kid has been doing for homework daily and how he or she has done on tests (junior had better be showing them to you) and whether he or she feels overwhelmed by projects or is doing OK with those, enjoys or dislikes certain subjects and why, etc. Know what worries your kid and what doesn't. Go in with specific, concrete questions -- which you can't do unless you know what your child is doing day to day in school. That makes these short meetings much more useful for both you and the teacher. Parents who go in without any clue of their own about where their kid is doing well and where he or she is struggling -- and who wait to be told all that by the teacher for the first time -- will find conferences frustrating and might feel some bombs got dropped on them because they weren't aware of some issues.
I do all of the above and still got a bomb dropped on me.