Eh, dh met my college bf (only other very serious rship) on our second date at a party. Dh has many female friends and have visited them across the country without me. I am secure in our relationship and am fine with other women being friends with him (ok, maybe when I meet them I put on my best spanx and a little extra makeup, but whatever). I have become very good friends with some of his female friends, and he gets along very well with my ex and his new wife. Only your wife can help you make this decision.

I think the jealous types are strange, too. This would not bother me in the least and I don't think it would bother my husband. In your shoes, I would absolutely bring it up. That said, if my husband said that it made him uncomfortable, I would drop it because, silly as I might find his reaction, it wouldn't be worth it to me to trigger the jealousy.

I'm surprised by all the jealous posters on this thread. I would not care at all and it seems weird your wife is so jealous. When DH turned 30, we had a huge party. He ended up inviting some old friends from high school, including his former gf, whom he dated from ages 16-20. I knew they kept in touch from time to time and didn't care at all. I am also still good friends with my ex from part of college and have hung out with him with and without DH.

Thankfully neither of us are the jealous types and we are both trusting. Unfortunately, it sounds like the fallout of inviting your ex would be more trouble that it is worth. Sorry OP

Wow, there seem to be a lot of jealous types on this thread,OP. it is entirely possible for men and women to be friends with their exes with no threat at all to the present relationship.

Personally, I wouldn't reward a jealous spouse by giving in and and not inviting who I wanted to be friends with to my party. That's allowing the spouse to effectively control my friends. A good marriage is not a controlling one.

You've been open with your DW about your friendship. She will be at the party and you are willing to let your wife be there for any other gathering (which I think is indulging her crazy, but you do what you think is right)

Invite who you want to your party and have a good time.

I think it's disrespectful but if you had any kind of balls, just ask your wife. Since she is fully aware you contact her regularly, the question wouldn't be too shocking.

Yes. I believe I said that in my opening note