Anonymous wrote:Me, husband and toddler had to stay at my parents house for about 4 weeks. We sold our house and hadnt found a new place to live. Theu offered for is to stay there. During one week if this time period my husband and toddler were at his parents house. So really we weren't even there that long. However they made it evidently clear that we were an inconvenience. My Dad blew up at my husband several times for ridiculous reasons. They also blew up at us because they thought we were being "too picky" about finding a place to live. We had only been there 3 weeks- not 3 months. Both my mom and dad were acting so different than I ever remember. They said some really hurtful things to me and my husband. I've always had a pretty good relationship with them - but after this it just doesn't feel the same. I am feeling really upset and sad about it. My husband made it clear that he really does not want to see them again for a long time. I really can't blame him. My dad was a compete ass and totally disrespectful to him.
I am conflicted on how to move forward. Maybe it's just that they are getting older and have no patience anymore. Or maybe they just really don't like my husband and aren't shy about showing it. That part is depressing because I am caught in the middle. Both sides want me to "side" with them. I found out that my mom thought I should have "defended" my dad after he blew up at my husband over something that was actually not his fault. My dad was completely in the wrong- yet she still thought I should side with him? How can I not side with my husband! Especially when he was not in the wrong?

I haven't seen them again and probably won't until maybe Christmas. I don't know- just wondered if anyone else has experienced something like this. I am starting to realize that things will probably never be the same- and as l