Anonymous
03/07/2014 14:41
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Go for it lady 
Anonymous
03/07/2014 14:39
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Anonymous wrote:I feel silly asking about this...especially that I am no in my teens or twenties!
About six months ago, I was walking toward my building in the morning, and this tall guy started talking to me and asked me if I was heading to Starbucks, I said no, he then asked what building I worked at and where I worked, I returned the questions. It was weird because during the whole conversation, I did not look at him once! I was feeling sick that morning, and was running late, and didn't even notice that he was interested in me ( I am divorced, haven't dated in a while, and swore men off) then we crossed the road and as I was saying " have a good day", I turn and see his face. Needless to say, I immediately regretted not going to Starbucks, he was handsome! and I really liked the way he approached me and talked to me, it took me a while to forget him.
Fast forward to about 3 weeks ago, we cross paths again, he and his male coworker were coming back from Starbucks and I was heading to my office. We both lock eyes, nod ( hi, i know who you are) then, sparks everywhere. I could tell he was happy to see me, I think the feeling was mutual.
Well, I cannot take him off of my head, I keep on reliving the second encounter, his face, the way he looked at me, the whole thing over and over again. I really want to see him again, and maybe talk to him. I know he goes to the Starbucks in my building, and I kind of know his timing. I am now considering going to the coffee shop at around the same time and see what happens. I really need to either get to know him or forget about him.
Any words of wisdom?
Avoid him at all costs. Based on your description of your "chance" encounter odds are he's some kind of con man or a serial killer and was prepping you to be his next victim.
Anonymous
03/03/2014 18:59
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Anonymous wrote:I agree, GO FOR IT, and report back! Us DCUMs need to live vicariously through you.
Anonymous
03/03/2014 18:52
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
19:46 here - don't know why this thread struck me but I wondered if any of the women frequenting the coffee shops around my building in downtown was you OP!
but glad to hear you're doing well. going through a divorce does take a toll on our bodies and mental health but sounds like you're back on your feet and have found your mojo too!!
but glad to hear you're doing well. going through a divorce does take a toll on our bodies and mental health but sounds like you're back on your feet and have found your mojo too!!
Anonymous
03/03/2014 18:42
Subject: Re:should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the encouragement. I never approached a guy in my life, but I think I can do this!
I think he might already have approached you...have fun! We will live vicariously through you!
Anonymous
03/03/2014 17:36
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Glad you're ok, OP!!
Anonymous
03/03/2014 17:20
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Yes, I'm OK!
Thanks
Thanks
Anonymous
03/03/2014 16:39
Subject: Re:should start buying coffee just to see him again?
You ok?
Anonymous
03/03/2014 16:11
Subject: Re:should start buying coffee just to see him again?
OP here, I am due for an update!
I got teary eyes when I saw the date I wrote the first post, it was the day after I had a biopsy, little did I know....to all the men and women going through a stressful time in your life, please take care of yourself, my doctor said I had this for at least 2 or 3 years, it coincides with the time of my divorce.
Life is good again, I am enjoying every moment I spend with DC.
Oh, and I haven't seen the guy I posted about, nor did I think about him during the last few months, I wouldn't mind seeing him again!
I got teary eyes when I saw the date I wrote the first post, it was the day after I had a biopsy, little did I know....to all the men and women going through a stressful time in your life, please take care of yourself, my doctor said I had this for at least 2 or 3 years, it coincides with the time of my divorce.
Life is good again, I am enjoying every moment I spend with DC.
Oh, and I haven't seen the guy I posted about, nor did I think about him during the last few months, I wouldn't mind seeing him again!
Anonymous
10/03/2013 09:19
Subject: Re:should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Soooo, does noone but me find it a little odd from OP's description that a guy would flag a woman down that is not looking at him, and while she continued to not look at him, ask him questions like what building she works in?
Maybe OP's description is missing some intial eye contact? It just sounds a little off, and then the second meeting sounds so very glorious.
He may have seen her for a while and finally got the courage to talk to her and picked an awkward time. That would be very much the kind of thing that could happen.
OP just be careful. Go check him out. but as with any person you dont know, just keep in mind you know nothing about him at all.
Enjoy, though! Sounds heart fluttery- and fun!
Maybe OP's description is missing some intial eye contact? It just sounds a little off, and then the second meeting sounds so very glorious.
He may have seen her for a while and finally got the courage to talk to her and picked an awkward time. That would be very much the kind of thing that could happen.
OP just be careful. Go check him out. but as with any person you dont know, just keep in mind you know nothing about him at all.
Enjoy, though! Sounds heart fluttery- and fun!
Anonymous
10/03/2013 07:17
Subject: Re:should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Anonymous wrote:OP, why in the world would you want to forget about him??! He obviously likes what he sees in you (!!). I would give it a chance and see what happens. What have you got to lose? Soo....You really aren't much of a coffee drinker? Well, then get a hot chocolate then!
This sounds like the beginning of something wonderful. <---- Sorry, I am a hopeless romantic. LOL.
But it really does.
He sounds like he likes you and wants to get to know you.
And you are single and sound like you could use a little romance in your life as well.
Sounds like a recipe for .......
Keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!
OP here again ( the previous one too)
I've seen him a total of three times in six months, I have been looking for him on the way to work since the second encounter, and I get disappointed when I don't see him. I am telling you, this guy lives in my head. I have always been in control of my emotions, but this time, I think I have a "coup de foudre" (in French, definition: Noun, A sudden unexpected event, especially an emotional one; love at first sight.)
I just need to find a way to control my thoughts and emotions until I see him and get to know him. I feel like I am already emotional invested in someone I don't know at all, I could be setting myself up for a huge disappointment with this guy, and it's just silly to be feeling this way, I think.
Anonymous
10/03/2013 07:09
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
BTW OP, don't discouraged if you don't see this fella this week. He might be a Fed.
Anonymous
10/03/2013 07:07
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Anonymous wrote:I'm impressed you told him where you work. I would have wondered why he was asking!
Definitely stop by when you think he might be there. Please! Because I want to know that this sort of chance encounter can actually work! And sure you don't like Starbucks coffee...get one of those pretty iced teas. Or a cake pop, and then look all sexy eating it. Ok, just kidding on the last part -- but I hope you go for it!
I am surprised too! I usually don't answer questions from strangers. The way he spoke to me was really nice, mature, confident, and not cheesy at all.
At some point, before he spoke to me, he was walking ahead of me, and I thought "this guy is not bad at all" ( I like tall guys, I am petite ) then I thought "meh, I'm sure he farts a lot" and kept on walking.LOL!
Anonymous
10/03/2013 03:48
Subject: Re:should start buying coffee just to see him again?
OP, why in the world would you want to forget about him??! He obviously likes what he sees in you (!!). I would give it a chance and see what happens. What have you got to lose? Soo....You really aren't much of a coffee drinker? Well, then get a hot chocolate then!
This sounds like the beginning of something wonderful. <---- Sorry, I am a hopeless romantic. LOL.
But it really does.
He sounds like he likes you and wants to get to know you.
And you are single and sound like you could use a little romance in your life as well.
Sounds like a recipe for .......
Keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!
This sounds like the beginning of something wonderful. <---- Sorry, I am a hopeless romantic. LOL.
But it really does.
He sounds like he likes you and wants to get to know you.
And you are single and sound like you could use a little romance in your life as well.
Sounds like a recipe for .......
Keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous
10/02/2013 20:29
Subject: should start buying coffee just to see him again?
Go for it! At the very least, you'll enjoy the coffee.