Wow, you are nice to watch her at all. Most parents I know have to pay good money for child care! Seriously.

"Sis, I have some good news and some bad news. The good news is that I will watch Larla for two Tuesdays while you look for an alternative care arrangement, provided that you drop her off and pick her up at my house. The bad news is that I won't be available to watch her after that time, so you're going to have to get something else set up."

Why is this so hard? Tell her no! If you can't do that, at least have her drop your niece off. I mean really??? You are going to burn up your gas doing this? If so, you deserve to be taken advantage of.

OP,
you need to come back and tell us how you handled this!!

Anonymous wrote:My bil got a new job, before doing so my sister assumed I woul be willing to watch my neice on my day off (tuesday) If he got this job. They live an hour and would expect me to drive there and provide 10 hours of childcare in addition to the 50+ I work now. I don't mind helping out sometimes but them assuming I'll do this weekly without consulting me is seriously driving me insane. On top of that the way she told me pisses me of to no end. Her statement exactly 'I have some good and bad news, you going to have to watch Larla on your days off because we don't want to do day care'. As if I as an adult don't have a choice.

Vent over

She is so wrong.

As an adult, you most definitely have a choice OP, and that choice is to make your own decisions. A true day off is a day off. A day to do as you please. Caring for a young child is work and for them to just assume you would be willing to watch your niece is beyond rude to me. Screw them. Tell them you already signed up for a pottery class on Tuesdays.

Tell her no and then don't show up. What are they going to do if you just flat out don't come? I agree with pp that yd you do this once they'll gave no motivation to make other arrangements. If you were working fewer hours a week I could see doing it, but you have a very full life already and deserve to have free time to sleep, cook, do laundry,.run errands, see a movie etc.

Did they offer to pay you? Personally, if I were close to my family is be likely to do it but UT would have to be on my terms with the understanding that they do all the work of bringing the kid to me, provide everything she needs and that I'll be ruining errands and taking care of things throughout the day.

I don't understand. Why didn't you just say "no"? No one can force you to drive an hour away and take care of a kid on your day off.

If you do this even one time, it's just an opening for her to take advantage of you again and again. She sounds like the type of person that uses people.

Ok, so *be* an adult and tell her no. I truly hope you are not going to just take it.

Please don't do it. Pleas say "no" now.

If they have expectations now, trust me, those expectations will only get worse. My brother and sister in law were like this, and it lead to a lot of being taken advantage of, being unappreciated, and resentment.

You're an aunt, not a caretaker. Your days off belong to YOU.

OP, quit whining here and go take charge of your life. Tell them you absolutely will not be spending your day off watching their child, and you want to give them notice so they can hire someone. Problem solved.

Tell her you cannot do it. Problem solved. You are happy to help out on occasion but not several days a week driving an hour each way, which costs you money. He got a new job so they can pay someone.