OP, your daughter will be just fine. 'Shit happens' and it's good for her to start realizing that fact now. As for your husband's uselessness? Can't help you with that

OP -

Children need to learn to deal with disappointments in life. Instead of criticizing your DH for a mistake made while taking care of your child, use the experience as a learning experience for her. Kids are resilient. She will survive her lost lovey a lot easier if you do not feed into her tantrum. She is probably picking up more on your anxiety than the actual missing object.

In a calm voice, tell your daughter her lovey is bye bye but she can have the other lovey if she wishes. If she choses to throw a tantrum, don't react and go about doing other things. She will calm down when she sees her tantrum is not getting the attention she wants. She will also learn not to fall apart when life doesn't go as she wishes.

As far as your DH is concerns, let it go. Being overly critical over any mistake is a great way to ensure he will avoid such tasks in the future.

Signed - Mother of four

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have backups. Three of them. As I mentioned previously, she knows they're backups. They never really took, she always just wanted the original. I got her to go to sleep without it last night but her first thing this morning was to ask me if we found her special friend.

Yes, I'm pissed at my husband. I vented and I said I wouldn't apologize (and I am certainly not going to shut my fucking mouth angry cretin from above). This was my opinion.

It's your opinion that your husband did something stupid? OK.

It's your opinion that this behavior is common to all men? And you're standing by that? Well, I suppose that's your right, but it makes you seem pretty irrational.

Your issue isn't with all men, it's with the particular man you married. If this kind of behavior is typical of him (doing something stupid, and then failing to help correct it), again, it's your particular man who has the problem, not all men. Perhaps you're just upset because you are worried that you married an insensitive douchebag?

Buy a new one?

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of men think that other men are crucified on this board, but find me one woman who would do this. I go out for one small dinner with a friend. One dinner. While I'm gone, my husband lets our daughter leave the house with her little lovey, her prized possession, the one thing we don't ever leave the house with, the one thing that stays IN THE GODDAMN HOUSE. It's gone now. She losing her mind, and he's sitting on the couch useless.
Yes, this is a vent. No, I'm not going to apologize. I'm actually going outside to look for the damn thing while he stares at the television.

My husband did the exact same thing. Clueless and frustrating. I hope you find it.

OP here. I have backups. Three of them. As I mentioned previously, she knows they're backups. They never really took, she always just wanted the original. I got her to go to sleep without it last night but her first thing this morning was to ask me if we found her special friend.

Yes, I'm pissed at my husband. I vented and I said I wouldn't apologize (and I am certainly not going to shut my fucking mouth angry cretin from above). This was my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of men think that other men are crucified on this board, but find me one woman who would do this. I go out for one small dinner with a friend. One dinner. While I'm gone, my husband lets our daughter leave the house with her little lovey, her prized possession, the one thing we don't ever leave the house with, the one thing that stays IN THE GODDAMN HOUSE. It's gone now. She losing her mind, and he's sitting on the couch useless.
Yes, this is a vent. No, I'm not going to apologize. I'm actually going outside to look for the damn thing while he stares at the television.

How dare you make this a "man" thing. You've done far worse, I'm sure, and he doesn't take to anonymous chat boards to "vent" about all women.

Shame on you.

Oh can it.

No. Shut your own fucking mouth. You don't get to vent about this. Why do you confuse this with a place where you can come vent and generalize like this without pushback? Screw you.

Wow. So we need your permission to vent now? And where did OP say she wouldn't accept pushback? While you're thinking about those questions, here is a nice big bag of sand and a sledgehammer. Why don't you go pound all that sand straight up your ass?

I doubt my husband would do one thing like this. But even if he (or I - I am just as lkkely as he is to do this) did, I have backups. Perhaps you should do something like that.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of men think that other men are crucified on this board, but find me one woman who would do this. I go out for one small dinner with a friend. One dinner. While I'm gone, my husband lets our daughter leave the house with her little lovey, her prized possession, the one thing we don't ever leave the house with, the one thing that stays IN THE GODDAMN HOUSE. It's gone now. She losing her mind, and he's sitting on the couch useless.
Yes, this is a vent. No, I'm not going to apologize. I'm actually going outside to look for the damn thing while he stares at the television.

How dare you make this a "man" thing. You've done far worse, I'm sure, and he doesn't take to anonymous chat boards to "vent" about all women.

Shame on you.

Oh can it.

No. Shut your own fucking mouth. You don't get to vent about this. Why do you confuse this with a place where you can come vent and generalize like this without pushback? Screw you.

I hope you get some help for your anger issues. Seriously, it's not healthy. It's just not. Calm down.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of men think that other men are crucified on this board, but find me one woman who would do this. I go out for one small dinner with a friend. One dinner. While I'm gone, my husband lets our daughter leave the house with her little lovey, her prized possession, the one thing we don't ever leave the house with, the one thing that stays IN THE GODDAMN HOUSE. It's gone now. She losing her mind, and he's sitting on the couch useless.
Yes, this is a vent. No, I'm not going to apologize. I'm actually going outside to look for the damn thing while he stares at the television.

How dare you make this a "man" thing. You've done far worse, I'm sure, and he doesn't take to anonymous chat boards to "vent" about all women.

Shame on you.

Oh can it.

No. Shut your own fucking mouth. You don't get to vent about this. Why do you confuse this with a place where you can come vent and generalize like this without pushback? Screw you.

DH Here. This exact situation happened with my DD, only it was under my wife's watch that the prized stuffed animal was lost. You are angry, but it is not a man thing. It is a "your" husband thing.

Sorry about the lovey. I get why you are upset. Your DH is not helping by seeming not to care.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of men think that other men are crucified on this board, but find me one woman who would do this. I go out for one small dinner with a friend. One dinner. While I'm gone, my husband lets our daughter leave the house with her little lovey, her prized possession, the one thing we don't ever leave the house with, the one thing that stays IN THE GODDAMN HOUSE. It's gone now. She losing her mind, and he's sitting on the couch useless.
Yes, this is a vent. No, I'm not going to apologize. I'm actually going outside to look for the damn thing while he stares at the television.

How dare you make this a "man" thing. You've done far worse, I'm sure, and he doesn't take to anonymous chat boards to "vent" about all women.

Shame on you.

Oh can it.

Back ups. And then get back ups for the back ups.

Yeah, this is a bad situation but it sounds like you're generally just pissed at your husband and generalizing to all men in the process. My husband has many faults, but in our house I'd be just as likely to be the one to leave behind the lovey and he would be. So not all men are the same, you know?