Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Pls treat them respectfully. They are adults and not children. You may not like the decisions they have made. You may or may not make different ones down the road. However, judging from the number of posters on this site complaining about interfering parents and in laws, it is obvious no one of ant age wants to be told what to do--in this case, by their child who isn't a major part of their lives.
Nobody is telling anyone what to do. We are asking people what their plans are for different eventualities, and if they have made no plans, encouraging them to do so. And we have to have these conversations because when the shit hits the fan, we are going to be the ones picking up the pieces.
Anonymous wrote:Pls treat them respectfully. They are adults and not children. You may not like the decisions they have made. You may or may not make different ones down the road. However, judging from the number of posters on this site complaining about interfering parents and in laws, it is obvious no one of ant age wants to be told what to do--in this case, by their child who isn't a major part of their lives.
Anonymous wrote:I just said to the more reasonable one, "So! What are your plans for Mom if you croak first? And your plans for yourself if she croaks first? Also, you're getting old. Have you seriously considered hiring a cleaning lady once a week?" and each time the conversation veered away I brought it back until we'd moved forward.
Anonymous wrote:Pls treat them respectfully. They are adults and not children. You may not like the decisions they have made. You may or may not make different ones down the road. However, judging from the number of posters on this site complaining about interfering parents and in laws, it is obvious no one of ant age wants to be told what to do--in this case, by their child who isn't a major part of their lives.