Anonymous wrote:You must be new to DCUM, PP. The OP didn't say SIL was being beaten or abused. If her parents can't even be approached with this then I'm sure SIL didn't learn normal communication skills. This often ends up in a bad marriage and divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My in laws are not the types to "talk it out" at all. And my sister in law is the same way. I know, annoying. It is possible they have a "Family" group, which was my justification for not emailing ex BIL. My other justification was since they were in the midst of a legal proceeding, it is inappropriate for me to email him since he has retained counsel.
Stop overthinking this so much. it isn't a big deal to send out an email that says "hey did you know ex BIL is part of this email chain?" It isn't talking it out.
There is no way I could send an email like that. They are super WASPy. No way. Thanks for the advice though.
WTF?
That is is really stupid if they cannot take an email like that.
That is not WASPY -- that is batshit crazy and I see how SIL ended up in a bad marriage, with parents like that.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My in laws are not the types to "talk it out" at all. And my sister in law is the same way. I know, annoying. It is possible they have a "Family" group, which was my justification for not emailing ex BIL. My other justification was since they were in the midst of a legal proceeding, it is inappropriate for me to email him since he has retained counsel.
Stop overthinking this so much. it isn't a big deal to send out an email that says "hey did you know ex BIL is part of this email chain?" It isn't talking it out.
There is no way I could send an email like that. They are super WASPy. No way. Thanks for the advice though.
Anonymous wrote:My ex SIL is still the mother of my nieces and still the mother of my children's first cousins. Fortunately, we're still on good terms with her and her new husband (who was an long-time family friend before my brother's divorce and before he married into our "family". We consider them still to be family, so we still include her on info. She actually has a really nice new house, so when we are in that town, we often have our family gatherings at her house.