maril332
08/30/2013 20:42
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Was she perhaps from the Middle East, or Muslim? In the ME, you are not supposed to shake with your left hand, and in Islam, it's Sunnah to only use your right hand to shake with.
Not OP, but I'm presuming OP was somewhere in the DC area, not in the middle east...therefore, what is "supposed to" happen in the ME is irrelevant. When in Rome...
Yeah, but many immigrants bring their culture with them, and keep it.
Muslims are supposed to only use their left hand to wipe after using the bathroom, and thus eat and shake with their right hand - which is why it's considered very rude to offer your left hand to shake.
Well, they are in the wrong, not OP. If I moved to Sweden, I'd expect that I'd learn to adapt to Swedish customs--I wouldn't expect the Swedes to adapt to me. That's what causes anti-immigrant sentiment.
In all honesty, I know that I was technically "wrong" but it wasn't as if that is how I typically introduce myself. I clearly had stuff in my right hand that I couldn't just drop and I didn't want to be rude and leave her hand just hanging there. Lol
maril332
08/30/2013 20:38
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:What if you don't have a right hand?
Surely it's overlooked then, I would assume. I guess she just wanted me to let my kid fall to the ground and probably run back through the park, drop the stroller on him, and all the stuff i had too.
Anonymous
08/30/2013 15:28
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
What if you don't have a right hand?
Anonymous
08/30/2013 15:11
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Was she perhaps from the Middle East, or Muslim? In the ME, you are not supposed to shake with your left hand, and in Islam, it's Sunnah to only use your right hand to shake with.
Not OP, but I'm presuming OP was somewhere in the DC area, not in the middle east...therefore, what is "supposed to" happen in the ME is irrelevant. When in Rome...
Yeah, but many immigrants bring their culture with them, and keep it.
Muslims are supposed to only use their left hand to wipe after using the bathroom, and thus eat and shake with their right hand - which is why it's considered very rude to offer your left hand to shake.
Well, they are in the wrong, not OP. If I moved to Sweden, I'd expect that I'd learn to adapt to Swedish customs--I wouldn't expect the Swedes to adapt to me. That's what causes anti-immigrant sentiment.
maril332
08/30/2013 14:13
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:maril332 wrote:Son was having a "im 2, im hungry, sweaty and tired" meltdowns. Not excusing just explaining.
Also, I didn't imagine it because when I held out my hand she looked at it like I was handing her a used tampon and then made an obviously "annoyed" sound.
She probably smelled the cigarette smoke on you.
ha ha.
maril332
08/30/2013 14:13
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:I think she was probably not scoffing, but was more likely feeling awkward, and even embarrassed at having tried to shake your hand at what was a difficult time for you to reciprocate, and she blanked out at your offer of a left hand.
Now if she turned on her heel, said HMMPH!, rolled her eyes, and marched off, hair swinging to and fro, you just met Jan Brady.
It was certainly a scoff. I held out my hand and she kind of rolled her eyes and looked at me like I had no home training. It was the equivalent of going to someones house and saying "oh.... how... quaint."
Anonymous
08/30/2013 13:45
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:maril332 wrote:Son was having a "im 2, im hungry, sweaty and tired" meltdowns. Not excusing just explaining.
Also, I didn't imagine it because when I held out my hand she looked at it like I was handing her a used tampon and then made an obviously "annoyed" sound.
She probably smelled the cigarette smoke on you.
I was thinking the same thing!
Anonymous
08/30/2013 13:25
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Was she perhaps from the Middle East, or Muslim? In the ME, you are not supposed to shake with your left hand, and in Islam, it's Sunnah to only use your right hand to shake with.
Not OP, but I'm presuming OP was somewhere in the DC area, not in the middle east...therefore, what is "supposed to" happen in the ME is irrelevant. When in Rome...
Yeah, but many immigrants bring their culture with them, and keep it.
Muslims are supposed to only use their left hand to wipe after using the bathroom, and thus eat and shake with their right hand - which is why it's considered very rude to offer your left hand to shake.
Anonymous
08/30/2013 13:25
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Yes, this is what I was wondering. OP, are you the kind of person who is quick to see insult? Maybe the other person was, as this pp suggests, feeling awkward and you misinterpreted her reaction. Happens to us all now and then. But certainly if she rejected your left hand, that's pretty ridiculous - unless she was "fresh off the boat" from a Muslim country.Anonymous wrote:I think she was probably not scoffing, but was more likely feeling awkward, and even embarrassed at having tried to shake your hand at what was a difficult time for you to reciprocate, and she blanked out at your offer of a left hand.
Now if she turned on her heel, said HMMPH!, rolled her eyes, and marched off, hair swinging to and fro, you just met Jan Brady.
Anonymous
08/30/2013 13:17
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
I think she was probably not scoffing, but was more likely feeling awkward, and even embarrassed at having tried to shake your hand at what was a difficult time for you to reciprocate, and she blanked out at your offer of a left hand.
Now if she turned on her heel, said HMMPH!, rolled her eyes, and marched off, hair swinging to and fro, you just met Jan Brady.
Now if she turned on her heel, said HMMPH!, rolled her eyes, and marched off, hair swinging to and fro, you just met Jan Brady.
Anonymous
08/30/2013 12:17
Subject: Re:Is it disrespectful to...
I probably would have given you a weird look because I would have been thrown off, and I wouldn't have know whether you wanted to do a real handshake or one of those awkward hand clasps. Give her the benefit of the doubt, or threaten her, whatever works.
Anonymous
08/30/2013 12:13
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
maril332 wrote:Son was having a "im 2, im hungry, sweaty and tired" meltdowns. Not excusing just explaining.
Also, I didn't imagine it because when I held out my hand she looked at it like I was handing her a used tampon and then made an obviously "annoyed" sound.
She probably smelled the cigarette smoke on you.
Anonymous
08/30/2013 12:10
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:Was she perhaps from the Middle East, or Muslim? In the ME, you are not supposed to shake with your left hand, and in Islam, it's Sunnah to only use your right hand to shake with.
Not OP, but I'm presuming OP was somewhere in the DC area, not in the middle east...therefore, what is "supposed to" happen in the ME is irrelevant. When in Rome...
maril332
08/30/2013 12:09
Subject: Is it disrespectful to...
Anonymous wrote:Was she perhaps from the Middle East, or Muslim? In the ME, you are not supposed to shake with your left hand, and in Islam, it's Sunnah to only use your right hand to shake with.
She was white but I suppose she could have been Muslim.