Hi OP, I grew up outside Boston and moved back to the city after college. I am also your age. I have 3 friends at Harvard Med and 2 at HBS. As another PP pointed out, none of your target audience lives where you do. My 2 friends at HBS live in the Back Bay, the other are spread out between the South End, Beacon Hill, and JP. 1 of my med school friends has a serious gf he's been dating for 3 years, another dumped his gf of 4 years because of the stress/time commitment of school, and another is having fun enjoying the single life. My new HBS friends are single and thoroughly enjoying it (although they have always been like that). Honestly, if you are looking for the prestige of dating a Harvard man, I think you could find that in other occupations in Boston. Example...investment banking. I'm friends with a few in that field and you should see the lives they lead. Hanging out with them in the Back Bay is always an interesting time.

Unfortunately, you sound pretty vapid and desperate which most guys can sniff out. And they will ultimately end up using you because of this.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a Harvard undergrad for 3 months when I went to BU. He was not a completely bad guy, but completely egotistical and entitled despite best intentions. Didn't help that he had been privileged his whole life.

I strongly suggest you look at MIT. It has a more "middle-class" atmosphere and the guys there tend to be nice, friendly geeks who are always ready to make new friends. Harvard kids do not socialize with people who are not Harvard kids. Period. They just do. not. leave. Cambridge. Literally.

Go hang out in the new Sloan building. Those guys do juuuuuuuust fine.

I second this. MIT's business program is said to be a better alternative to Harvard's and in some cases better overall. Many Harvard students go for their MBAs there.

Anonymous wrote:I dated a Harvard undergrad for 3 months when I went to BU. He was not a completely bad guy, but completely egotistical and entitled despite best intentions. Didn't help that he had been privileged his whole life.

I strongly suggest you look at MIT. It has a more "middle-class" atmosphere and the guys there tend to be nice, friendly geeks who are always ready to make new friends. Harvard kids do not socialize with people who are not Harvard kids. Period. They just do. not. leave. Cambridge. Literally.

Go hang out in the new Sloan building. Those guys do juuuuuuuust fine.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the advice about seeking out a nice MIT engineer.

I second this.

Also, if you are going for a Harvard guy you either want one that had tuition paid by his parents or is on a financial aid scholarship. Otherwise you will spend all your 30's paying off his debt and he will divorce you when he is 45ish... you will have 2 kids, will have to support yourself on your own salary because there is no savings due to the debt you spent paying off for 15 years ... he and his new wife will live in a mansion and you will live in a townhouse in the exburbs. He will also pay you minimum child support because his next 2 kids are expensive.

I'm really intrigued by the HLS posters' descriptions of the dating scene there. I graduated from HLS 25 years ago and things were very different then. We had quite a few romances within the law school, several of which led to marriage -- including my own. I'll note that some of us tried to keep things quiet; in fact, one of my classmates told my then boyfriend that he thought I was dating someone else in our class. We've teased this poor guy at every reunion for the past 25 years.

Op, I can't help but laugh at you. For someone in their mid to late twenties you seem to have your Priorities wrong. However, I will still help you out since I was born and raised in Boston and currently live near your neighborhood. First, living in a hipster town like Somerville isn't going to look good or put you in direct contact with any older Harvard grads. They all live in the yuppier parts of Cambridge, Beacon Hill, south end and closer to the The financial district. You might find one in Southie but it's mostly BC grads. These men are brainwashed to believe they are Entitled to have the best which includes marrying Ivy League graduates or supermodel-ish women, which from what you describe, are not. If they are not married by our age (25-32), something is wrong. They are either to career driven or assholes. I'm going to also assume that your particular about which kind of Harvard man you want to date. You can Rule outarchitectural grad students Because their program is way too intense to allow time for girlfriend. Business grads and students, as well as law grads typically are around the Financial district after work and some might live around there. Your best bet is a med school resident at MGH. They live around beacon hill, backbay area because of the easy commute to the hospital. You are more likely to run into them during the day at a coffee shop near the hospital. The easiest way to meet these guys is by working for a company like MFS who almost never hire non Ivy League, in a hospital or for the university in the grad department. You will also need to start networking in certain social groups and definitely move to a more "respectable" neighborhood that reflects the pedigree you desire. Or you could go for a nerdy MIT grad student who tend to be more down to earth and friendly. Overall as 27yr old in Boston, I find your need to date an ivy leaguer ridiculous but I wish you the best.

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I think you seem too impressed by Harvard. There is obviously SO much more to a person than where they went to school. FWIW, My uncle went to Harvard, and he happens to be dull, unmotivated, unsuccessful---my brother went to a bottom tier school, and is extremely worldly, hardworking, enterpernurial, successful. Like any university, there are all sorts of people. Harvard is no different. Harvard has there share of both, too

The grad school guys hang out in their respective libraries and in bars near campus. Thursday nights at bars are often a good time.

I graduated from Harvard Law a decade ago, so who knows....but when I was there, there were already more women than men, not too many of them were in serious relationships and those who were tended to be involved with other law students (my roommate met her now-husband 1L year and they were one of the few stable long-term couples on campus), and most were too focused on their academics and future careers to want to invest in committed relationships. I didn't know anyone who was dating a woman from the area who was not another student at the time.

I am not sure I would want to date a Harvard grad student to be honest, but good luck!

^^^^ I'm also trying to say that you really may not want to be married to one of us. Bar exams, clerkships, being an associate in a demanding firm, trying for partner all takes its toll on a relationship. I imagine it is even worse for fledgling doctors.

Practice, internships and residencies also are so demanding that no one really has the time until their 30s to focus on marriage. My husband likes to tease me that every single frick'n movie that I have not seen was released during my law school years and the summers I took bar exams. I had to leave Big Law practice and move to DOJ before I was ready to settle down. I was 34 or 35. Husband, 36.

Woman here who went to HBS. Do not marry one of them.

I agree with the advice about seeking out a nice MIT engineer.

I dated a Harvard undergrad for 3 months when I went to BU. He was not a completely bad guy, but completely egotistical and entitled despite best intentions. Didn't help that he had been privileged his whole life.

I strongly suggest you look at MIT. It has a more "middle-class" atmosphere and the guys there tend to be nice, friendly geeks who are always ready to make new friends. Harvard kids do not socialize with people who are not Harvard kids. Period. They just do. not. leave. Cambridge. Literally.