Anonymous
08/14/2013 15:15
Subject: Re:Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
I grew up as an only child of divorced parents. I hated it. I loved to spend time with my friend's family because they had lots of siblings(4). Their house was always fun. My house was lonely. Now that I am a parent I have 3 kids and my kids are great friends and we have so much fun together as a family. It is so much better that my childhood.
Anonymous
08/14/2013 15:09
Subject: Re:Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
I think couples that have more children are very invested in the concept of family and work through tough times to stay together because family is so important and a main focus in life. Everyone will have tough times. If family is not a priority you are less likely to stay married.
Anonymous
08/14/2013 15:09
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
14:12 - THIS.
Anonymous
08/14/2013 15:06
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
Solo kids are annoying as adults. They are brats, they have little patience, and they don't know how to get along with others. That is not a good combo when you are 30 years old.
Anonymous
08/14/2013 14:12
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
Michelle Duggar, is that you?
Anonymous
08/14/2013 14:07
Subject: Re:Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
just because there are lower divorce rates with more kids doesn't demonstrate direct causality.
Could be that once you're past 2 or 3 kids, it is not feasible to maintain a household on one income. Or maybe people that are in stabler relationships feel more inclined to keep procreating, whereas people who are already having issues don't keep adding kids to the mix. Or could be some completely independant thing, like religion as stated by a PP.
Not sure the study is at all useful
Could be that once you're past 2 or 3 kids, it is not feasible to maintain a household on one income. Or maybe people that are in stabler relationships feel more inclined to keep procreating, whereas people who are already having issues don't keep adding kids to the mix. Or could be some completely independant thing, like religion as stated by a PP.
Not sure the study is at all useful
Anonymous
08/14/2013 13:48
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
My mom was one of 12... 9 still married, 3 divorced. Better than average!
Anonymous
08/13/2013 21:05
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
Unless your siblings are abusive, leeches, or worse.
Anonymous
08/13/2013 19:17
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
DH had 3 sibs. I had 1. None of our siblings got married but the two of us have a happy, successful marriage. I'm not sure your premise applies universally.
Anonymous
08/13/2013 19:14
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a it's caused by religiousness or something like that.
I was thinking it was because they grew up learning conflict resolution, knew how to compromise, and understood that relationships were indeed work. They also knew what it was like to live with other people.
Anonymous
08/13/2013 18:18
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
Anonymous wrote:PP here- oh, hahaha. The mean thing to say was in reference to OP being called stupid. Sorry!
It can fairly be said about you, though.
Anonymous
08/13/2013 17:29
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The number of siblings appears to affect divorce rate. We have five kids. I love reading good things about big families!
Each additional sibling a person has (up to about seven) reduces the likelihood of divorce by 2%, finds the analysis, based on data from 57,061 adults in the General Social Survey, collected between 1972 and 2012.
http://www.freep.com/usatoday/article/2637491?odyssey=mod_sectionstories
Disgusting. Breeding like rats.
*Patting a spot on the couch and putting on glasses.*
So, tell Dr. Freud when did this pathological response to families begin dear? What was that? You say it started when you realized Barbie and Ken had no anatomy and you idealized their lives?"
*scribbling in notepad furiously*
"Yes, I'm afraid we'll need more sessions to work through this block. In the meantime, I'd like you to watch the Duggar family as a way of forcing a gag reflex. Face your fears, dear. See you next week."
Anonymous
08/13/2013 17:21
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
I would be willing to bet BIG MONEY that a few of the reasons that people with >2 siblings don't get divorced as often are:
- They are more religious (and so were their families, and so they don't "believe" in divorce.)
- They come from a background that says "Big Families!" and buy into it, too. Because that's what people do. And when you have a big family, getting a divorce is hard both financially and logistically because there's more to deal with than if you had one kid to pay for and split time with.
- They have more family support (siblings) of more family-oriented people to help with stresses such as kids, which leads to better and less stressful relationships.
I don't think this is about pop psychology. I think it's about falling into patterns.
- They are more religious (and so were their families, and so they don't "believe" in divorce.)
- They come from a background that says "Big Families!" and buy into it, too. Because that's what people do. And when you have a big family, getting a divorce is hard both financially and logistically because there's more to deal with than if you had one kid to pay for and split time with.
- They have more family support (siblings) of more family-oriented people to help with stresses such as kids, which leads to better and less stressful relationships.
I don't think this is about pop psychology. I think it's about falling into patterns.
Anonymous
08/13/2013 17:15
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
Anonymous wrote:The number of siblings appears to affect divorce rate. We have five kids. I love reading good things about big families!
Each additional sibling a person has (up to about seven) reduces the likelihood of divorce by 2%, finds the analysis, based on data from 57,061 adults in the General Social Survey, collected between 1972 and 2012.
http://www.freep.com/usatoday/article/2637491?odyssey=mod_sectionstories
Disgusting. Breeding like rats.
Anonymous
08/13/2013 17:14
Subject: Growing up with more siblings is good for marriage.
^^ You get used to...not sued!