Anonymous wrote:So because your father masturbates you're implying that he's a pedophile?

NP here. uh no, not because he masturbates, but because he masturbates in an open room in front of an OPEN DOOR. You are a serious idiot if you don't understand the OP's concern.

Anonymous wrote: Ladies, sometimes a brother's to rub one out. It's normal, whatever your age.

Now if the OP's Dad continued beating off after he was caught, well that's just effed up!

Dumbass, everyone masturbates. But doing it out in the open is a HUGE sign that something is amiss.

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Anonymous wrote:So because your father masturbates you're implying that he's a pedophile?

OP here. No no no - I just think he does stupid, selfish things. What if one of his grandchildren came back. Go to the bathroom and lock up!

OP, your comment that he "does stupid, selfish things" indicates you may have other reasons to feel he's just "off" when it comes to being with your child. Add the masturbation incident to that and I say...go with your gut and don't let DD visit alone. If your mom asks why you won't let DD come alone, just brush it off with "She's a homebody and not really ready to do that alone yet --and it gives me a chance to see you too, mom!" or whatever. I would wager that telling your mom the real reason could make her very defensive or very upset, or both, and that is just not where it needs to go. Distract, change the topic, whatever you need to do, but I wouldn't send DD alone.

Did you tell your sister (or was it SIL?) with the teen boys about this? I would think she would be pretty grossed out as well. Sure, the boys do it themselves (as I'm sure some helpful person is likely to post) but the idea of seeing grandpa doing it right there in the vacation cabin doorway should gross out even the most earthy teenage boy....

How long was he expecting you to be gone for. If he thought you were gone for the day and he really thought he was truly alone in nature, then no reason really to go into a locked bathroom. When I am home alone, I leave the bathroom door open when I use it - I don't do that if others are home.

how did he react - was he horrified and embarrassed and ran into his room or he he just sit there and keep going?

Ladies, sometimes a brother's to rub one out. It's normal, whatever your age.

Now if the OP's Dad continued beating off after he was caught, well that's just effed up!

Anonymous wrote:Could this be related to dementia?

That was my thought too.
I knew someone who's husband started pleasuring himself whenever and where ever it struck his fancy. He then started to just walk around totally exposed. This woman owned a home daycare and was fortunate enough to have caught on that something was off with him and closed her business before he started letting his business all hang out, so to speak.

Trust your instincts. And it sounds like your gut is telling you no.

I guess he thought that everyone was gone so..... Gross mental image but I wouldn't worry about anything.