Anonymous
08/04/2013 21:12
Subject: Have had it up to here!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Learn to restrict what you share about your lives when it comes to the in-laws. Some folks either don't know how to be supportive or they aren't really in a position to be helpful to you.
I would have been happy to leave them out of the loop but they're DHs parents and its his choice to tell them or not. I think he wishes they could be more supportive and is always rediscovering how they're not.
Obviously, when he shares these things with his parents they get very worried/fretful and then they react in unhelpful ways. If sharing his troubles only serves to worry his parents, it might be much kinder if DH manages what he says to them a little more carefully...
OP again. I do agree with this...wish I could show this post to DH!
Um, you can. It is a free Internet.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 21:08
Subject: Have had it up to here!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Learn to restrict what you share about your lives when it comes to the in-laws. Some folks either don't know how to be supportive or they aren't really in a position to be helpful to you.
I would have been happy to leave them out of the loop but they're DHs parents and its his choice to tell them or not. I think he wishes they could be more supportive and is always rediscovering how they're not.
Obviously, when he shares these things with his parents they get very worried/fretful and then they react in unhelpful ways. If sharing his troubles only serves to worry his parents, it might be much kinder if DH manages what he says to them a little more carefully...
OP again. I do agree with this...wish I could show this post to DH!
Anonymous
08/04/2013 17:02
Subject: Have had it up to here!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Learn to restrict what you share about your lives when it comes to the in-laws. Some folks either don't know how to be supportive or they aren't really in a position to be helpful to you.
I would have been happy to leave them out of the loop but they're DHs parents and its his choice to tell them or not. I think he wishes they could be more supportive and is always rediscovering how they're not.
Obviously, when he shares these things with his parents they get very worried/fretful and then they react in unhelpful ways. If sharing his troubles only serves to worry his parents, it might be much kinder if DH manages what he says to them a little more carefully...
Anonymous
08/04/2013 16:24
Subject: Have had it up to here!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Learn to restrict what you share about your lives when it comes to the in-laws. Some folks either don't know how to be supportive or they aren't really in a position to be helpful to you.
I would have been happy to leave them out of the loop but they're DHs parents and its his choice to tell them or not. I think he wishes they could be more supportive and is always rediscovering how they're not.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 16:05
Subject: Have had it up to here!!!!
Learn to restrict what you share about your lives when it comes to the in-laws. Some folks either don't know how to be supportive or they aren't really in a position to be helpful to you.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 15:35
Subject: Have had it up to here!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you think maybe they are trying to sympathize with him?
Most likely. OP, I would try to talk to them and let them know in a nice way that you appreciate their concern but not to bring up the job situation in every single conversation. Tell them you find it stressful.
Also, do they know about the loan from your parents? Let them know that you are doing okay financially.
Op here. I have told them were ok financially. It has nothing to do with that, apparently. I think they are trying to sympathize but are clumsy about it. Either way, I've made it clear that I don't want to hear it, but they persist in circling back to that conversation.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 13:51
Subject: Have had it up to here!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Do you think maybe they are trying to sympathize with him?
Most likely. OP, I would try to talk to them and let them know in a nice way that you appreciate their concern but not to bring up the job situation in every single conversation. Tell them you find it stressful.
Also, do they know about the loan from your parents? Let them know that you are doing okay financially.