Anonymous wrote:Yes, break it down for us, OP. use letters like PP suggested. This is so confusing. What was the big news? Who is jealous of your good news? The whole part of your friend breaking into song is weird. What did you mean what you write in your OP that you got the relevance of the song she sung- - a snake chasing a boy?? What???

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like a scene from a screwball comedy.

Whatever your big news is, if its truly big, why would something like that de-rail the topic permanently for the evening?

It does sound very awkward. I can understand your feelings could be hurt if this is a very good friend and she knew what you were about to say, and then did this to screw up the moment for you. But why would she do that? Do you think it was an on purpose? Was there general conversation going on that maybe she didnt hear you about to deliver the news? Is she someone prone to awkward blurting like this?

We are too much context on her ways know them and your perception of her intentions to be able to say what we would do or what you should do.

OP here. we were in a quiet, fancy restaurant. We are not chugging beer and telling Hooters jokes. We are over 30. Yes, sadly she knew what the news was and did not want to hear yet another friend having great good fortune. When she told me the other friend, I thought it was just small talk. She knew her friend was very ummm lucky, why the anger? So she did it on purpose --that is why my feelings were hurt. She heard me all too well.
What I missed was that she had had much more to drink than I noticed at the time (in retrospect, I now realize that she was plastered. She has a bit of a drinking problem. She started singing. Friends don't usually burst into toddler songs when we eat out together. Now I remember that she has done this before when she has had too much. It was very early to be quite at that state.) I can image when she told me her mother was ill... if I had jumped right into the Barney's song...I would have thought that was rude of me.
The whole thing took me by surprise. I know it would have been much smoother to say, OK Larla, You're feeling very merry. Partly it was just a misunderstanding. She is a big drinker. What did I expect? I did not understand the extent of her perception that falling down drunk is OK , and all the things that go with it. I do not want to think this about my friend.
I have to rethink this with her, my tolerance ,ect. Obviously this has been building up. Vent!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like -- for whatever reason -- your friend thought it would be inappropriate for you to share your news (for example, if you're pregnant & the other couple recently had a miscarriage), and rather than kick you under the table or make the finger-across-the-throat "knock it off" gesture, she chose to use a random anecdote.

Maybe call her and ask? "Hey, I got the feeling you didn't want me to share our big news on Friday -- what was up with that?"

+1. It sounds as if your friend interrupted to keep you from accidentally saying something awkward.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like a scene from a screwball comedy.

Whatever your big news is, if its truly big, why would something like that de-rail the topic permanently for the evening?

It does sound very awkward. I can understand your feelings could be hurt if this is a very good friend and she knew what you were about to say, and then did this to screw up the moment for you. But why would she do that? Do you think it was an on purpose? Was there general conversation going on that maybe she didnt hear you about to deliver the news? Is she someone prone to awkward blurting like this?

We are too much context on her ways know them and your perception of her intentions to be able to say what we would do or what you should do.

OP here. we were in a quiet, fancy restaurant. We are not chugging beer and telling Hooters jokes. We are over 30. Yes, sadly she knew what the news was and did not want to hear yet another friend having great good fortune. When she told me the other friend, I thought it was just small talk. She knew her friend was very ummm lucky, why the anger? So she did it on purpose --that is why my feelings were hurt. She heard me all too well.
What I missed was that she had had much more to drink than I noticed at the time (in retrospect, I now realize that she was plastered. She has a bit of a drinking problem. She started singing. Friends don't usually burst into toddler songs when we eat out together. Now I remember that she has done this before when she has had too much. It was very early to be quite at that state.) I can image when she told me her mother was ill... if I had jumped right into the Barney's song...I would have thought that was rude of me.
The whole thing took me by surprise. I know it would have been much smoother to say, OK Larla, You're feeling very merry. Partly it was just a misunderstanding. She is a big drinker. What did I expect? I did not understand the extent of her perception that falling down drunk is OK , and all the things that go with it. I do not want to think this about my friend.
I have to rethink this with her, my tolerance ,ect. Obviously this has been building up. Vent!

Anonymous wrote:She knew the other couple better than you did and realized your big news wasn't something that was going to go over well with them for whatever reason and she cut you off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like a scene from a screwball comedy.

Whatever your big news is, if its truly big, why would something like that de-rail the topic permanently for the evening?

It does sound very awkward. I can understand your feelings could be hurt if this is a very good friend and she knew what you were about to say, and then did this to screw up the moment for you. But why would she do that? Do you think it was an on purpose? Was there general conversation going on that maybe she didnt hear you about to deliver the news? Is she someone prone to awkward blurting like this?

We are too much context on her ways know them and your perception of her intentions to be able to say what we would do or what you should do.

OP here. we were in a quiet, fancy restaurant. We are not chugging beer and telling Hooters jokes. We are over 30. Yes, sadly she knew what the news was and did not want to hear yet another friend having great good fortune. When she told me the other friend, I thought it was just small talk. She knew her friend was very ummm lucky, why the anger? So she did it on purpose --that is why my feelings were hurt. She heard me all too well.
What I missed was that she had had much more to drink than I noticed at the time (in retrospect, I now realize that she was plastered. She has a bit of a drinking problem. She started singing. Friends don't usually burst into toddler songs when we eat out together. Now I remember that she has done this before when she has had too much. It was very early to be quite at that state.) I can image when she told me her mother was ill... if I had jumped right into the Barney's song...I would have thought that was rude of me.
The whole thing took me by surprise. I know it would have been much smoother to say, OK Larla, You're feeling very merry. Partly it was just a misunderstanding. She is a big drinker. What did I expect? I did not understand the extent of her perception that falling down drunk is OK , and all the things that go with it. I do not want to think this about my friend.
I have to rethink this with her, my tolerance ,ect. Obviously this has been building up. Vent!

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like a scene from a screwball comedy.

Whatever your big news is, if its truly big, why would something like that de-rail the topic permanently for the evening?

It does sound very awkward. I can understand your feelings could be hurt if this is a very good friend and she knew what you were about to say, and then did this to screw up the moment for you. But why would she do that? Do you think it was an on purpose? Was there general conversation going on that maybe she didnt hear you about to deliver the news? Is she someone prone to awkward blurting like this?

We are too much context on her ways know them and your perception of her intentions to be able to say what we would do or what you should do.

Anonymous wrote:She knew the other couple better than you did and realized your big news wasn't something that was going to go over well with them for whatever reason and she cut you off.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like -- for whatever reason -- your friend thought it would be inappropriate for you to share your news (for example, if you're pregnant & the other couple recently had a miscarriage), and rather than kick you under the table or make the finger-across-the-throat "knock it off" gesture, she chose to use a random anecdote.

Maybe call her and ask? "Hey, I got the feeling you didn't want me to share our big news on Friday -- what was up with that?"