Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I'm in a similar boat. Current job pays $200k and might go to $250 within 2 years, $300k within 5 to 10. I WFH 3-4 days a week, otherwise have flex hours (read: leave at 3pm if I want), I have unlimited vacation, and a 7.5% 401k match. I have a team of 8 reporting to me either directly or indirectly. I'm 34, and have about $1.2 to $1.3M in the bank (net). I work 40 to 50 hours a week.

Have another job that might bump me to $250 now, would include base, bonus and equity...$300k might be 2 years out....but I imagine long ass hours and no flexibility. Case in point: the recruiter called me Friday night at 7pm. Alarm bells were going off. 2nd round interviewer asked me "How many hors do you work?" (Another red flag). Asked to describe the culture he said "used to be family friendly, but is moving back to business basics". (Another flag I think). It also sounds like, despite the higher salary, I'd not have any directs. That might matter a lot at the next job - feels weird to say i make $300k with no directs. I suspect no work from home, or much more limited WFH. Plus the commute is out to near Dulles (from DC) so I guess that's at least an hour. And I currently work for a well known firm, this one is no-name. Plus, as an exec at the firm, there would be little opportunity for growth. On the flip side $250 vs $200 is a big leap - and on paper anyway, its a promotion.

All said, I'm leaning towards staying put. WWYD?

Anonymous wrote:Same dilemma over here. DH keeps telling me I'll be stressed and miserable if I take another job (and he's right). But I'm also somewhat miserable being bored to tears at work and feeling like I'm not living up to my potential. The only thing that makes my current job bearable is the hours and flexibility. The trade-off is totally worth it now, but I'm afraid when the kids get older I'll regret having a mediocre career.

Anonymous wrote:I am in a very similar position, except I just had a baby. I was pretty content to phone it in, and that always drove my husband crazy - said I wasn't doing enough with my talent, blah, blah, blah. Now that I am paying for childcare to be away from my precious baby all day, I REALLY want to make the shift to a big job. I feel like it's not worth it to be away from my kid all day unless I am doing something great.

Anonymous wrote:Just another perspective to consider - as some one who works with people mostly just "dialing it in" - I think you owe it to yourself and your employer to find something you're passionate about. Even if you're only willing to put in 40 hours a week, those should be serious, hard working hours. If you're just passively going along and not willing to take up extra tasks as needed, then some one else is doing that for you and more could get done if you were somewhere you were excited to be and they were staffed by enthusiastic people.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I'm in a similar boat. Current job pays $200k and might go to $250 within 2 years, $300k within 5 to 10. I WFH 3-4 days a week, otherwise have flex hours (read: leave at 3pm if I want), I have unlimited vacation, and a 7.5% 401k match. I have a team of 8 reporting to me either directly or indirectly. I'm 34, and have about $1.2 to $1.3M in the bank (net). I work 40 to 50 hours a week.

Have another job that might bump me to $250 now, would include base, bonus and equity...$300k might be 2 years out....but I imagine long ass hours and no flexibility. Case in point: the recruiter called me Friday night at 7pm. Alarm bells were going off. 2nd round interviewer asked me "How many hors do you work?" (Another red flag). Asked to describe the culture he said "used to be family friendly, but is moving back to business basics". (Another flag I think). It also sounds like, despite the higher salary, I'd not have any directs. That might matter a lot at the next job - feels weird to say i make $300k with no directs. I suspect no work from home, or much more limited WFH. Plus the commute is out to near Dulles (from DC) so I guess that's at least an hour. And I currently work for a well known firm, this one is no-name. Plus, as an exec at the firm, there would be little opportunity for growth. On the flip side $250 vs $200 is a big leap - and on paper anyway, its a promotion.

All said, I'm leaning towards staying put. WWYD?

Anonymous wrote:You may find that your priorities will change once your kids are in elementary school and get involved in a ton of activities. My husband has a "BIG" job but I'm far more content with my non prestigious job then I ever thought I'd be. I have the flexibility to be at their school activities, baseball practices, recitals, field trips, etc. etc. etc. I love it that I know all their friends well and they know me.
When my kids were young (2 and 4 likes yours) I didn't realize how much I'd enjoy being an active part of their elementary school lives.

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NP here. Why do you think there is a time limit on your opportunity for a "big job"? What is the reasoning behind this thinking? Just curious.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I'm in a similar boat. Current job pays $200k and might go to $250 within 2 years, $300k within 5 to 10. I WFH 3-4 days a week, otherwise have flex hours (read: leave at 3pm if I want), I have unlimited vacation, and a 7.5% 401k match. I have a team of 8 reporting to me either directly or indirectly. I'm 34, and have about $1.2 to $1.3M in the bank (net). I work 40 to 50 hours a week.

Have another job that might bump me to $250 now, would include base, bonus and equity...$300k might be 2 years out....but I imagine long ass hours and no flexibility. Case in point: the recruiter called me Friday night at 7pm. Alarm bells were going off. 2nd round interviewer asked me "How many hors do you work?" (Another red flag). Asked to describe the culture he said "used to be family friendly, but is moving back to business basics". (Another flag I think). It also sounds like, despite the higher salary, I'd not have any directs. That might matter a lot at the next job - feels weird to say i make $300k with no directs. I suspect no work from home, or much more limited WFH. Plus the commute is out to near Dulles (from DC) so I guess that's at least an hour. And I currently work for a well known firm, this one is no-name. Plus, as an exec at the firm, there would be little opportunity for growth. On the flip side $250 vs $200 is a big leap - and on paper anyway, its a promotion.

All said, I'm leaning towards staying put. WWYD?

Sounds like you should stay put. What kind of work is this?

Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I'm in a similar boat. Current job pays $200k and might go to $250 within 2 years, $300k within 5 to 10. I WFH 3-4 days a week, otherwise have flex hours (read: leave at 3pm if I want), I have unlimited vacation, and a 7.5% 401k match. I have a team of 8 reporting to me either directly or indirectly. I'm 34, and have about $1.2 to $1.3M in the bank (net). I work 40 to 50 hours a week.

Have another job that might bump me to $250 now, would include base, bonus and equity...$300k might be 2 years out....but I imagine long ass hours and no flexibility. Case in point: the recruiter called me Friday night at 7pm. Alarm bells were going off. 2nd round interviewer asked me "How many hors do you work?" (Another red flag). Asked to describe the culture he said "used to be family friendly, but is moving back to business basics". (Another flag I think). It also sounds like, despite the higher salary, I'd not have any directs. That might matter a lot at the next job - feels weird to say i make $300k with no directs. I suspect no work from home, or much more limited WFH. Plus the commute is out to near Dulles (from DC) so I guess that's at least an hour. And I currently work for a well known firm, this one is no-name. Plus, as an exec at the firm, there would be little opportunity for growth. On the flip side $250 vs $200 is a big leap - and on paper anyway, its a promotion.

All said, I'm leaning towards staying put. WWYD?

Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I'm in a similar boat. Current job pays $200k and might go to $250 within 2 years, $300k within 5 to 10. I WFH 3-4 days a week, otherwise have flex hours (read: leave at 3pm if I want), I have unlimited vacation, and a 7.5% 401k match. I have a team of 8 reporting to me either directly or indirectly. I'm 34, and have about $1.2 to $1.3M in the bank (net). I work 40 to 50 hours a week.

Have another job that might bump me to $250 now, would include base, bonus and equity...$300k might be 2 years out....but I imagine long ass hours and no flexibility. Case in point: the recruiter called me Friday night at 7pm. Alarm bells were going off. 2nd round interviewer asked me "How many hors do you work?" (Another red flag). Asked to describe the culture he said "used to be family friendly, but is moving back to business basics". (Another flag I think). It also sounds like, despite the higher salary, I'd not have any directs. That might matter a lot at the next job - feels weird to say i make $300k with no directs. I suspect no work from home, or much more limited WFH. Plus the commute is out to near Dulles (from DC) so I guess that's at least an hour. And I currently work for a well known firm, this one is no-name. Plus, as an exec at the firm, there would be little opportunity for growth. On the flip side $250 vs $200 is a big leap - and on paper anyway, its a promotion.

All said, I'm leaning towards staying put. WWYD?