This was back in the time when Scott Peterson had cruelly murdered, lied about, and butchered his wife and baby. I had called my parents and basically apologized for not being able to "give" them a grandchild. My mom said, after we had pretty much decided to give up post-failed IVF's and m/c's, etc., "Well at least you're not Lacey Peterson." It was so disrespectful to that poor woman's family, I know -- my mom meant to try and make us feel better but it was sorta crazy.....and par for the course.

Ultimately miracle baby arrived all on her own, as a surprise (I got unexpectedly pregnant).
Good luck to all.

After a miscarriage, someone said to me, "oh next time I bet you'll be really careful."
Uh? Cause this time....?

Anonymous wrote:My mother-in-law called me days after coming home from the hospital after having a ruptured ectopics..."I demand to know if you can produce an heir!". We aren't "heir" type people...no big trustfunds or anything.

Hideous. I wish you could fire mothers in law.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks all for sharing. 17:20, I'm so sorry your mom said that. I call those Captain Obvious moments.

To those who posted snarky comments, please just keep those to yourself. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything.

Sometimes we just need to vent without judgment. Everyone on this board should be able to relate to that, right?

Thanks. I do realize it is not the MOST horrible thing anyone could possibly say to someone, and it IS Captain Obvious (as if I am not aware of my "advancing age"). However, my husband is out of town and my mother is visiting during that time. I had no one else to vent to, so I came to this board.

We've been trying on our own for 3 years (we went to the clinic after a year, but for a multitude of reasons, didn't go through with treatments yet), and we just finally decided to give a couple rounds of IUI a try. I honestly have very few people to talk to about this - most of my friends have had 2 or 3 by this point. Once your first hits grade school, most assume you're done, or they give you the "why would you spread your kids so far apart?" lecture.

To be 100% honest, I'd rather adopt, but my husband is not willing to discuss this until we've "tried everything else" (which thankfully he agreed, due my previous lousy pregnancy and a now pre-existing condition that only showed up due to my first pregnancy, is ONLY going through IUI's). And, of course, finances - none of these prospects are cheap and we aren't made of money.

OK, done with my pity party - I honestly just needed someone to vent to yesterday, that's all.

There were many. I think the craziest was when I got pregnant and my excercise pal demanded to know if I used DE (this was long ago, when DE was new) Didja, didja, didja??? My friend really needs to know! she said was her reason for asking. I thought, I really do not know you well enough to share details.

I think the mom saying " i know how you feel, you were the best thing to ever happen to me" is sweet and compassionate. I also do not think the sister saying "are they sure you cannot have any children" (while not eloquent) was not meant cruelly....that she was expressing her interest in knowing if everything had been done already to give you the best outcome." However, I will also say that infertility is such a sensitive subject, and so very personal, and everyone has a right to be offended by comments that THEY feel were insensitive. We are all different, and we all have things that bug us. Just my 2 cents. Good luck to all.

OP here. Thanks all for sharing. 17:20, I'm so sorry your mom said that. I call those Captain Obvious moments.

To those who posted snarky comments, please just keep those to yourself. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything.

Sometimes we just need to vent without judgment. Everyone on this board should be able to relate to that, right?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother JUST said to me "well, you know you're getting older, too" OK, I'm turning 36 in a week - and this is TTC #2.

I never should have told her I had to go to the clinic for a test today - but she is here for the week and nosey.

Plenty of women are just starting at my age. I had #1 at 28.

Thanks for the support, mom. *facepalm*

She's right you know. Biology is biology no matter what age other women in DC ttc.

wow, how very helpful YOU are.

Of course I realize I am getting older in terms of TTC. But it's still shitty to hear from someone who is supposed to be your support system.

I feel you because I'm going through the same thing but it is what it is, you know?

you're just a ray of sunshine.

She then followed it up with questions about why I even want #2. Super supportive, mom. Thanks for the pep talk.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother JUST said to me "well, you know you're getting older, too" OK, I'm turning 36 in a week - and this is TTC #2.

I never should have told her I had to go to the clinic for a test today - but she is here for the week and nosey.

Plenty of women are just starting at my age. I had #1 at 28.

Thanks for the support, mom. *facepalm*

She's right you know. Biology is biology no matter what age other women in DC ttc.

wow, how very helpful YOU are.

Of course I realize I am getting older in terms of TTC. But it's still shitty to hear from someone who is supposed to be your support system.

I feel you because I'm going through the same thing but it is what it is, you know?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother JUST said to me "well, you know you're getting older, too" OK, I'm turning 36 in a week - and this is TTC #2.

I never should have told her I had to go to the clinic for a test today - but she is here for the week and nosey.

Plenty of women are just starting at my age. I had #1 at 28.

Thanks for the support, mom. *facepalm*

She's right you know. Biology is biology no matter what age other women in DC ttc.

wow, how very helpful YOU are.

Of course I realize I am getting older in terms of TTC. But it's still shitty to hear from someone who is supposed to be your support system.

Anonymous wrote:I hired a shaaman healer and during the spritual cleansing he said I feel a heavy weight like you are blaming yourself...gee ya think so?

This is actually the weird part....do you find that in the yellow pages?

Anonymous wrote:My mother JUST said to me "well, you know you're getting older, too" OK, I'm turning 36 in a week - and this is TTC #2.

I never should have told her I had to go to the clinic for a test today - but she is here for the week and nosey.

Plenty of women are just starting at my age. I had #1 at 28.

Thanks for the support, mom. *facepalm*

She's right you know. Biology is biology no matter what age other women in DC ttc.

My mother JUST said to me "well, you know you're getting older, too" OK, I'm turning 36 in a week - and this is TTC #2.

I never should have told her I had to go to the clinic for a test today - but she is here for the week and nosey.

Plenty of women are just starting at my age. I had #1 at 28.

Thanks for the support, mom. *facepalm*

I hired a shaaman healer and during the spritual cleansing he said I feel a heavy weight like you are blaming yourself...gee ya think so?

Anonymous wrote:My Mom told me to stop roller blading for exercise bc I was rattling my eggs, and my brother said my DH must be too quick on the trigger...WTF? this was supposed to be helpful?