Less cheesey? Um, I like the soft flowing skirt of your daughter's dress far, far better than the clinginess of your choice.

Seriously? This is the perfect illustration of differences of opinion. I hate your choice. Like your daughter's.

Let her have the dress she wants. It's tasteful and age appropriate. It's silly to not allow her to have it just because you don't like it without a valid reason such as cost, not age appropriate, skanky, etc.

Your daughter has selected a great dress! Personally I would buy it for her and be pleased she selected something lovely.

Her choice is prettier, more youthful and definitely more prom-ish.

Your choice looks dated and old, like somethin a 30 year old woman would wear to an event.

If it is not skanky and fits in the budget, let her pick what she feels pretty in. It is one night that over the course of her life will be a happy blip on her radar. It is not like it is 1950 and Prom is the most important day of her life before she graduates, gets married and starts having babies.

Also- If you convince DD not to go with the dress she likes- the next one could easily be way worse. It could be short, tight, garish, the list goes on.

Count your blessings and say yes to the dress!

I think your daughter's pick is normal for a prom dress and prefer it to your choice...obviously it's your choice though.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I guess by severe, I mean her hair will be dark (black), her makeup will probably have to be dark, so the look will be a bit "dark", but if that's what she wants, okay. I'll back off.

*DD does earn $80/month in allowance. I told her I didn't think the dress was worth the cost, but if she wants it she'll have to forfeit two month's allowance to help pay for all of her prom costs. Hopefully we can resell when prom is over.

FWIW, I envisioned something brighter (and less cheesy) like this:

If I had to choose which dress is inappropriate for a 17 yo it would be the one you selected.

Looks like a boob could easily pop out on the dance floor while wearing the dress that you like. I like your daughter's dress better.

OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I guess by severe, I mean her hair will be dark (black), her makeup will probably have to be dark, so the look will be a bit "dark", but if that's what she wants, okay. I'll back off.

*DD does earn $80/month in allowance. I told her I didn't think the dress was worth the cost, but if she wants it she'll have to forfeit two month's allowance to help pay for all of her prom costs. Hopefully we can resell when prom is over.

FWIW, I envisioned something brighter (and less cheesy) like this:

Thats adorable. Its not severe at all...its a royal or bright blue.

Please stop the non-sense and buy her the dress.

I would be thrilled if my teen daughter picked out something that, um, tasteful.

That is a gorgeous dress and not at all "severe."

My vote is back off Mom (well, after setting a budget). Maybe your daughter is not a pastel kind of girl, and at 17 wearing a knockout jewel tone royal blue isn't at all inappropriate.

Severe - gee, I was thinknig it was some trashy black number.

Seeing pic, I think it's fine. Was imagining something hideous.

Your daughter picked a dress you think is ugly. But, you don't have to like it because it's not your dress. If cost isn't an issue, then I'd support her making her own fashion choices. She's the one that has to wear the dress and as long as it's not too sexy/revealing or $$$, I'd buy.

This is why I took my niece shopping for her prom dress. Both she and my sister knew that it would be a bad experience if they went together, because my sister was just too invested in what dress my niece would choose. I promised my sister that the dress would be appropriate, if not her taste. My niece didn't have to endure the nitpicking while searching for the dress, and actually ended up with one both mother and daughter liked. She admitted years later that if my sister had been the one shopping with her she probably would have chosen a dress my sister hated just to spite her.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This is the dress:

http://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/viewitem-PD1022569

Seriously? There is nothing severe about that dress. Looks totally appropriate for a HS prom.