I would have been upset too - Like a pp said, cavitity germs are actually contagious

http://www.everydayhealth.com/dental-health/oral-conditions/0401/tooth-alert-are-cavities-contagious.aspx

Also, 60-90% of adults have the cold sore virus. Arguing that you've never had a cold sore, does not mean you don't carry the virus. It just means you don't react to it in that way. But the baby could react to it, and what a bummer to have cold sores at such a young age.

She didn't need to yell though. You were clearly just trying to be a good aunt. Let it go, and hopefully she will too.

You were way out of line. I would be appalled if my SIL did this.

Anonymous wrote:Just what do you expect your brother to do? Take your side over his wife's? Not going to happen.

He does any other time his wife has her freak out moments with me or my mom.

Just what do you expect your brother to do? Take your side over his wife's? Not going to happen.

I may not have yelled at you like that but I would have been pretty grossed out too.

What's so hard about using a knife?

That's disgusting. SIL is NOT overreacting. Why would you do that??? The human mouth is full of germs.

Given that my granddaughter sticks her fingers in my mouth all the time, I wouldn't worry.....Some of you all are just beyond nuts. It's her sister, not a random stranger!

Yeah, she over-reacted but it's within her purview to decide how she wants her child fed. Let it roll off your back. And don't give her a hand by feeding your niece anymore. Let her do it and then you can have the fun play time after!

Her reaction may have been over the top, but I don't want anyone else feeding my kid that way either. I bite the skin off my kid's apples and bite their grapes in half, but would never do it for someone else's child, and would absolutely say something if someone did it for mine.

What?!?! Oh, OP, PLEASE tell your brother so he can also tell you off. I would also have yelled at you. My child had 4 cavities at age 18 months and had to have them capped. This never happened with the first two so why with this one? We were religious about tooth brushing and he genuinely never ate sweets, candy, or sticky type food like goldfish, etc, that would stick to the teeth. We brushed morning and night since first tooth. No bottle use, and night weaned on his own around 9 months. Why the cavities? Our dentist tells us that the bacteria that cause cavities is CONTAGIOUS. Neither DH and I have untreated cavities, but it's possible that someone else does, or that we're just carrying the germs. People just don't use their heads. And, OP, whether or not you think you are right, you are out of control trying to tell the mother of the kid that you have some sort of rights to do so because she's your NEICE. As for telling her brother, do it, please, so the brother doesn't think his wife is exaggerating when she tells him what his moronic sister did this time. Keep your mouth to yourself from now on, and apologize to SIL, big time.

I'd be most annoyed that you were feeding my 10 month old strawberries.

OP I think everything she said was completely warranted. I would NEVER, EVER think about feeding someone else's child out of my mouth. What you did was definitely wrong. Besides, we all have a right to raise our children the way we want to raise them. You don't get to make decision as an aunt.

Agree that she over reacted by yelling and she could have been nicer, but I also woudn't do this with someone else's child. I do it with my own if I don't have a knife, but wouldn't want someone else to do it. It also kind of grosses me out when my mom feeds my toddler with her hands when she has a fork sitting right there... It's also not really fair to say, but I think it would bother me more if one of my SILs did it than the other.

sounds like she didnt have the best delivery but her points were accurate.