Anonymous
03/06/2013 20:47
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 here and I do not agree with 13:00. Curse words or their "replacements" are not okay with me and are not allowed. I also would not use these words in front of my parents and/or elderly people.
I am 13:00 and I think it is a reasonable choice to not allow these words but I think this puts you on the far end of the range of opinions parents will have on this. I should not have used the perjorative "upright" because I really don't think that is fair so sorry for that. I was just trying to express that there is a range of opinions and not allowing these words would put OP in the minority among the least permissive group of parents. I think my views fall within the fat of the bell curve, if you will.
Don't really think I'm in the minority, but perhaps for the demographics on DCUM I am. I'm black and none of the black parents I know are okay with their children using curse words and/or their replacements. I will say that my oldest two are 13 & 17. I am almost positive my 13 y/o curses and I have zero problems with it. Just do it when with your peers and definitely don't do it in the presence of adults. I think being too lenient has an effect on how respectful teens are when in the presence of adults who aren't their parents.
I don't think being black has anything to do with it, when every black teen I pass is saying nigga this and nigga that.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 19:44
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 here and I do not agree with 13:00. Curse words or their "replacements" are not okay with me and are not allowed. I also would not use these words in front of my parents and/or elderly people.
I am 13:00 and I think it is a reasonable choice to not allow these words but I think this puts you on the far end of the range of opinions parents will have on this. I should not have used the perjorative "upright" because I really don't think that is fair so sorry for that. I was just trying to express that there is a range of opinions and not allowing these words would put OP in the minority among the least permissive group of parents. I think my views fall within the fat of the bell curve, if you will.
Don't really think I'm in the minority, but perhaps for the demographics on DCUM I am. I'm black and none of the black parents I know are okay with their children using curse words and/or their replacements. I will say that my oldest two are 13 & 17. I am almost positive my 13 y/o curses and I have zero problems with it. Just do it when with your peers and definitely don't do it in the presence of adults. I think being too lenient has an effect on how respectful teens are when in the presence of adults who aren't their parents.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 19:24
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
We use "daggnabit" a lot. I specifically teach my son words of exclamation to use when frustrated, mad, sad, whatever. He used to hit and bite in frustration. Now he says daggnabit.
Humans (as a species, not saying there aren't exceptions) swear as a means of catharsis for intense emotions. I'd rather my child swear than hurt someone. I'm totally fine with what the heck and darn it.
Humans (as a species, not saying there aren't exceptions) swear as a means of catharsis for intense emotions. I'd rather my child swear than hurt someone. I'm totally fine with what the heck and darn it.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 19:21
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 here and I do not agree with 13:00. Curse words or their "replacements" are not okay with me and are not allowed. I also would not use these words in front of my parents and/or elderly people.
I am 13:00 and I think it is a reasonable choice to not allow these words but I think this puts you on the far end of the range of opinions parents will have on this. I should not have used the perjorative "upright" because I really don't think that is fair so sorry for that. I was just trying to express that there is a range of opinions and not allowing these words would put OP in the minority among the least permissive group of parents. I think my views fall within the fat of the bell curve, if you will.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 19:12
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Well, if these are considered curse words, my family is fucked. Oh well.
Us too.
+1
Anonymous
03/06/2013 17:24
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Technically not cursing in my mind but if you don't like it than you have every right to put a stop to it. I fear teaching respect is becoming a lost art.
"Shut up" is certainly not a curse either but I don't let my kids say it. It's rude and disrespectful. If they want someone to stop talking than they clearly have some sort of problem with the other person. I expect them to address the problem, not mindlessly tell the other person to just shut up. They are 12, 15 and 16 now and it has always worked in our house.
"Shut up" is certainly not a curse either but I don't let my kids say it. It's rude and disrespectful. If they want someone to stop talking than they clearly have some sort of problem with the other person. I expect them to address the problem, not mindlessly tell the other person to just shut up. They are 12, 15 and 16 now and it has always worked in our house.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 17:23
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Is stupid a curse word? I sure don't think it is, but I also don't like my kids to use it. I actually had a kid come for a play date once who heard the word stupid used in my house and broke down into uncontrollable tears. His parents wouldn't let him come to our house ever again after that.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:48
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
lol! We do that after snack everyday 
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Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:45
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:I teach preschool and I usually say something to kids who say "what the heck" or "what the" (often they just say this). Mainly because I'm not sure where other parents stand on it and I don't want them learning things from preschool.
I don't call them out or anything but I might say "you mean WOW!".
Darn it is not one I hear often but I also comment on that if they are doing art or something because it is such a negative expression. Preschool kids should not be saying "darn it" when they color out of the lines.
Unless, of course, they are about to move on to their next activity, fixing holes in socks.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:44
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 here and I do not agree with 13:00. Curse words or their "replacements" are not okay with me and are not allowed. I also would not use these words in front of my parents and/or elderly people.
You wouldn't say darn it in front of your parents?
Every time I think I have heard the most ridiculous thing ever on DCUM someone proves me wrong.
How is that ridiculous? If I find the words disrespectful from my children, why in the world would I say them in front of *my* parents? I also don't (and wouldn't) curse in front of them. Being an adult does not eliminate my need to use respectful words around my parents. YMMV.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:40
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 here and I do not agree with 13:00. Curse words or their "replacements" are not okay with me and are not allowed. I also would not use these words in front of my parents and/or elderly people.
You wouldn't say darn it in front of your parents?
Every time I think I have heard the most ridiculous thing ever on DCUM someone proves me wrong.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:37
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Well, if these are considered curse words, my family is fucked. Oh well.
Us too.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:35
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
It depends on the person. When I'm around clients, some who have very strict views on cursing, I usually use the corniest phrases I possibly can like "crud on a cracker!" or "dog gone!" In the privacy of my house or car I whisper swears under my breath. Just the other day my 2-yo was whispering "oh, shit" under his breath---just like me in the car!
Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:26
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 here and I do not agree with 13:00. Curse words or their "replacements" are not okay with me and are not allowed. I also would not use these words in front of my parents and/or elderly people.
blech
Darn it and what the heck are not curse phrases.
I agree with another poster in that I HATE it when kids says 'crap'. (for that matter, I hate it when my kids say 'hate'!!). I would rather them say, 'dislike'.
I agree they aren't, but like another poster said it's "fake cursing". I'm not cool with that at all.
Anonymous
03/06/2013 16:20
Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Well, if these are considered curse words, my family is fucked. Oh well.