My 5 year old DS is annoying

Most are wonderful and fun. Sounds like particular child and specific social skills to be taught.

Anonymous wrote:5 is a wonderful age. It might be the only child thing. I felt bad for the little guy after reading your post. Of course, 2 year olds and 3 year olds might be driving the other parents crazy, too.

PP here. I was just thinking that I find 2-3 year olds to be the most difficult age. Other adults may find your children annoying.

My 5yo is an angel compared to my just turned 3yo. They both have their moments. I find my 5yo's inquiring speech to be endearing but you may find it annoying.

When we get together with families, our kids are off playing together while the parents hang out. They usually don't cut off adult conversation.

Being in the car with another adult only and the 2 kids is a whole other story.

I have 2 kids. One is easy and one is not so easy. But by far, 5 was my absolute favorite age for both.

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Anonymous wrote:This does not sound like my 5yo at all. He has his moments, but in general, he's a doll.

Every child can't be perfect like yours.

So yours is a pain in the ass is what you're trying to say? OP asked if this is typical, if you can't take the heat of an honest answer maybe you need to rethink your parenting.

I question the validity of your response to the OP. You clearly don't realize how annoying *you* are, so you cannot be trusted to provide an accurate assessment of anyone else's behavior -- including your "doll" of a child. Also, who talks that way? Are you 80?? I thought this was a question for moms, not old-biddy grandmothers.

I think you need to rethink your existence. Yes, even if this thread is old, because chances are you still suck.

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Anonymous wrote:This does not sound like my 5yo at all. He has his moments, but in general, he's a doll.

Every child can't be perfect like yours.

So yours is a pain in the ass is what you're trying to say? OP asked if this is typical, if you can't take the heat of an honest answer maybe you need to rethink your parenting.

I don't know. Could be the kid. Could be the parents. I'll be honest, my 5 year-old definitely has moment where he interrupts and needs reminders. He also whines no matter how much we give positive attention and ignore negative behavior. For the most part though, he's sweet. But, he's always been intense. I mean, since we brought him home from the hospital. He either charms you or is over the top. Since I have another child as a frame of reference, I am beginning to think some of it is the child, not just parenting...

Some of that is very common for a boy this age. There is a researcher who did great work on the ways boys and girls communicate. Girls (generally) communicate by trying to find common ground, i.e. show they are the same, even mimicking speech patterns when responding. Boys (generally) communicate by trying to "one up" each other in a sense (she uses the term "negotiate their status within the group"), even when it leads to tall tales that the other children clearly know are not true/impossible.

I work in early childhood and I find this to be a great argument. Individual children can be exceptions of course. Also, this makes the boys sound terrible but if you watch the video and see her video example of the little boys talking about how high their ball can go, it's actually an adorable and charming conversation where the boys are more delighted by the thoughts that their friends are coming up with. It's fun for them, a game. The conversation between the little girls is similarly adorable and charming.

Here's the video with examples: http://youtu.be/0XO0XJHesUU

So I don't let the kids push other kids aside to get praise, etc. If they're in a conversation laughing about how fast they are, then I won't say "now, now, you know that isn't true." It's not a problem. But in the case of the picture, I WOULD redirect. I would say "I like everyone's picture, but I was telling Johnny about how nicely he used those colors. When Johnny and I are done, you can tell me about your drawing." They have to learn appropriate social cues.

My dd is 5 and she's just becoming more delightful and less whiny/demanding. You have an N of 1, op.

5 is a wonderful age. It might be the only child thing. I felt bad for the little guy after reading your post. Of course, 2 year olds and 3 year olds might be driving the other parents crazy, too.

My kid brags. But I gently correct him. Same with interrupting. He's still learning. I wouldn't let him do these things if I were around. Especially if it involved younger kids.

IDK. I think the bragging is pretty normal for this age. The interrupting is not. The whining - well, depends on the kid but again, can be somewhat normal at this age.

I think my almost-5 year old DD is amazing/awesome about 80% of the time and 20% of the time I just want to throttle her.

I have 5 year old twins and a 3 year old. 5 year olds are terrific. Much much easier and nicer then they were at 3. Much easier than the 3 yr old is now.

The 5 year olds I know are bragging and annoying. For exame, they will tell my 2 year old he sucks at football and stuff like that, and are always saying how good they are at various stuff. I assumed it was an annoying age, because these are kids that didn't used to bug me.