unless this is a frequent pattern it does seem odd to me that you jump to the conclusion he is faking sick. And if he is, maybe you should gently try to see if there's something else going on. Is xmas an emotional time for him? Or maybe he really is exhausted. DH and I sometimes each need a break, and will say so. We try to accommodate each other.

Does he do this often?

A wife here. It seems so odd that you have leapt to the conclusion that he is faking being sick. Flu is going around, and it can start with aches. And even if it is not flu, it doesn't speak well of how you feel about him that you assume he is not sick. Where is the benefit of the doubt?

I agree, very annoying that he is sick. Maybe not really sick, but probably is. Your kids are young enough that they should be happy playing awhile with their toys. Time for a nap for you also. I got very sick yesterday and missed church. Not what I wanted to do. Better today, but not 100%. He is your husband, it is Christmas. Try to relax with it. Sorry he isnt helping you.

Anonymous wrote:If someone is sick, they are sick. What kind of bitchy wives are you? WOMAN up and take care of business. Maybe if you spent more time at home and less time at happy hour and the gym you wouldn't feel so overwhelemed by taking care of your kids.

As for Christmas....grow up. Boo hoo hooo no stocking for you. Are you 5 years old? Hang up the damn stocking and move on with your life. I feel sorry for your husband. Men these days have a lot of patience putting up with these foolish women.

+1

OP - I feel for you. Not all of us have marriages where both parties contribute equally. This year I bought myself some gifts and told DH to wrap them and put them under the tree. I also did most of the cooking and taking care of our DS on Sunday and Monday (we celebrate with my family on the 24th).

I think over the years I've just learned to accept that he's going to help less that I'd like. If I dwell on it, then I get angry and it makes everything worse. If DH doesn't want to participate, I just focus on how much I enjoy spending time with DS and do something fun with him.

Tell him to get his lazy ass up. If you're not sick enough to go to the doctor you don't get to lounge around all day when you have kids.

OP--this has clearly pushed a button for you. I'm guessing this isn't the first time he's had a mystery illness or suddenly been unavailable to help out with the kids. That's the real issue. We all get a pass every blue moon, but if it's a pattern, then you need to call him on it.