As other posters have pointed out -- YOU CANNOT CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE.

Talk about helicopter parenting, get the eff over it. We all figure this out at some point. I had older brothers, so I probably believed in Santa for like 10 minutes before one told me it was BS.

Gimme a break.

It's Christmas season, how about you try and think of someone else instead of focusing on perpetuating some stupid fantasy with your kid? Take her to visit an old folks home, or feed the hungry.

No one's gonna convince her those people don't exist once she sees them with her own eyes.

Anonymous wrote:My child is "Max." Sorry lady, but my child will shout it to the world and there is nothing you can do about it.

You seem like a very selfish person with an ugly heart and unfortunately it sounds like you're teaching your child to be the same.

There are two types of Max. 1) The kid whose family doesn't celebrate christmas, and 2) the kid who found out about Santa.

For Max 1, tell your kid that Santa only comes to people who celebrate christmas. For Max 2, tell your kid that Max doesn't know everything.

Just tell your daughter Max is full of shit.

Anonymous wrote:Kids who do that are jerks.

+10000 and so are their "I don't care if my kid shouts it to the world" parents.

Wow OP you are really full of yourself. Just the way you describe max's parents--we don't even *remember* who they are--just shows how self absorbed people have become. Guess what? We live in a pluralistic society. Not everyone "believes" in Santa. Given that this time of year, Xmas is everywhere, it actually takes more effort on the part of those parents who do not "do" Santa to explain it to our kids, than it does for you you to try and "shield" your kids from the truth.
So let me get this straight. You want me to tell my kids -hey don't tell anyone else that Santa isn't real?? Do you even understand kids?

Anonymous wrote:My child is "Max." Sorry lady, but my child will shout it to the world and there is nothing you can do about it.

To the poster who recently asked when we were going to stop putting on false niceties in the wake of tragedy and getting back to being assholes on DCUM, I think this person answered your question for you.

I always tell my kids not to ruin it for other kids and they are very respectful of the other people's traditions.

That said, I posted over on the school forum, to ask other parents that were telling their kids about Sandy Hook, to also tell them to not share that news about 20 slaughtered school children with my kids in class and got shot down with statements such as we won't tell our kids to not talk about it or the worst thing to do is tell them to keep a secret type statements.

Is the same?-definitely not. In my opinion it 1000x worse to scare, sadden and cause anxiety to other children with an actual TRUE nightmare that happened to kids their same age and in a building like theirs that they spend so many hours in.

But I'll make sure my kids don't ruin Santa for yours!

OP, your child had a nightmare about monsters. You need to separate that out from her statement to you about Max and Santa Claus. It's not Max or Max's parents fault your child had a nightmare.

Please calm down.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your DD that Max believes there is not Santa because Santa doesn't visit him, but perhaps Santa doesn't visit Max because he is naughty. And it would be mean to talk about Santa visiting her in front of Max since he doesn't get a visit, so she should not discuss Santa with him.

no, don't do this!

I do a version of this. I say Max has different beliefs, like being Jewish, and Santa respects his beliefs so Santa does not come to his house.

I say everybody has different beliefs and you need to respect his beliefs.

It really is not that big of a deal.

You need to start teaching your kids to think for themselves and not try to control their surroundings.

Anonymous wrote:Tell your DD that Max believes there is not Santa because Santa doesn't visit him, but perhaps Santa doesn't visit Max because he is naughty. And it would be mean to talk about Santa visiting her in front of Max since he doesn't get a visit, so she should not discuss Santa with him.

no, don't do this!

my older brothers and sister told me there's no santa claus even though my parents had asked them not to. it's disappointing, op, but once children know the truth, they'll usually share it.

I don't think you understand -- you can tell kids not to spoil it for the other kids, but when they go to school for 8 hours a day you cannot prevent them from "sharing" that Santa's not real. Unless your child is so cowed by you that they you can control everything they do all day, in which case there are likely other issues in your parent-child relationship more damaging than the sharing kid.

FWIW, my kid still believes but we need to all be practical about this.

Anonymous wrote:Who are these me me me parents who casually throw aside common courtesy in favor of "my kid will do what he/she wants, deal"? I just can't imagine that mentality. Please just be civil. Treat people kindly. Ask your kids to be respectful. A little more of this could really go a long way in our society, especially given the headlines these days. Please peopl. It's so much easier to be kind, and you know, you may teach your kids a good lesson and feel good in the end. You will be on the other end of this one day, and will be hoping for the same thing in return.

+1,000,000

Let the magic persist a while longer - especially in this sick/twisted world we live in . . . perhaps all of the "Max"-parents should go read the Grinch who stole Christmas!

Tell your DD that Max believes there is not Santa because Santa doesn't visit him, but perhaps Santa doesn't visit Max because he is naughty. And it would be mean to talk about Santa visiting her in front of Max since he doesn't get a visit, so she should not discuss Santa with him.