Anonymous
Post 12/10/2012 20:19     Subject: Should I tell MIL it's my birthday?
Your husband should say something to her in advance like "Hey, it's Marlena's 40th that day -- I was thinking I'd bring a cake we could all have that night after the party. Sound ok?" Or whatever he/you think would be a nice small way to acknowledge your birthday.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2012 14:22     Subject: Re:Should I tell MIL it's my birthday?
Not OP, but my MIL ALWAYS forgets my actual birthday. We have actually spoken on the phone on my birthday and she still forgot to wish me happy birthday. And I have know her now 14 years.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2012 14:21     Subject: Should I tell MIL it's my birthday?
Agree that DH should remind your MIL about your big birthday. Celebrate one occasion in the morning and the other at night?
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2012 14:16     Subject: Re:Should I tell MIL it's my birthday?
Anonymous wrote:Assuming the DD in question is your DD, then no. Let the christening party be about your DD and the event. You can celebrate your birthday another time. Assuming you scheduled the christening on your birthday it seems like it's already a choice you made to let your DD be in the spotlight.


Ok, so just to be clear, the OP is concerned that it will be potentially awkward if MIL finds out at the wrong time. She is not asking how she can take the "spotlight" away from her DD to make the party all about her bday.