Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW here. I suck at buying gifts and my DH is awesome at it. Every year is a surprise and spot on. I've never even considered returning anything he's given me. I on the other hand suck at it big time.

This is me too. He keeps a note section of things I mention during the year that I want and during my birthday and holiday time he gets from the list. It's always perfect. I hate it! . He's such a good gift giver, I make up for it with a Bj and a guys trip to Vegas.

I try to make it easy on my wife. Last year I said "I LOVE this Milwaukee M18 cordless drill. The one Bob has. But maybe I should wait for the after-Christmas sale". Should be a layup. If she has any doubt about what to buy, she can call Bob. Right? And I need a new drill because mine is 20 yrs old and I burned the insulation off part of the cord so it's kind of iffy anyway. And I just said I am not buying it before Christmas.

It's not that I care that she didn't get it. I'm happy just sitting together opening presents. But she missed out on taking credit for it. I got the drill and every time I pull it out I think how awesome it is. She could have heard a solid year of thank you's, which is a win for everyone even if I am handing it to her.

Every guy has something like that.

Anonymous wrote:Look--I keep a wish list, I send emails with links, I point out things in passing and I even have a Pinterest board. DH simply can't be bothered. I do think it says a lot about how much attention he pays and how much he cares when he doesn't make any effort at all.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW here. I suck at buying gifts and my DH is awesome at it. Every year is a surprise and spot on. I've never even considered returning anything he's given me. I on the other hand suck at it big time.

This is me too. He keeps a note section of things I mention during the year that I want and during my birthday and holiday time he gets from the list. It's always perfect. I hate it! . He's such a good gift giver, I make up for it with a Bj and a guys trip to Vegas.

Anonymous wrote:Allow me to try to answer this.

1) I cannot buy you clothing. I know your size, but I'm not really up on how retailers do vanity sizing these days, so I fear that I'll invariably get you something that makes you think I think you're fat (you're not and I don't), so there's simply no way to win in this area.

2) You developed an allergy to gold, and have more silver than you know what to do with. Besides, earrings are sort of go-to gifts from the kids. Besides, I've already given you diamond studs in the past. But, generally, it's getting harder to find decent jewelry. I do look, however, especially when I travel for work -- i'll go to the local markets. I just can never find the right thing.

3) You really wouldn't appreciate a book of "love" poetry. We don't do sappy symbolism in our house anyway. What I really want to give you is a new Apple Macbook to replace your failing laptop, and that would be a stretch financially, but you just said don't buy anything practical, so I guess that's out.

4) Along those lines, gadgets are out. You spend too much damn time looking at screens anyway as it is.

5) I'd get you lessons or something but you always go once or twice and stop going, so it's a waste of money.

So, look, this isn't as easy as you suggest. And I'm trying. How about you cut me some slack? Or just, I don't know, tell me what you want rather than play some game where I'm supposed to guess and be right?

Anonymous wrote:Allow me to try to answer this.

1) I cannot buy you clothing. I know your size, but I'm not really up on how retailers do vanity sizing these days, so I fear that I'll invariably get you something that makes you think I think you're fat (you're not and I don't), so there's simply no way to win in this area.

2) You developed an allergy to gold, and have more silver than you know what to do with. Besides, earrings are sort of go-to gifts from the kids. Besides, I've already given you diamond studs in the past. But, generally, it's getting harder to find decent jewelry. I do look, however, especially when I travel for work -- i'll go to the local markets. I just can never find the right thing.

3) You really wouldn't appreciate a book of "love" poetry. We don't do sappy symbolism in our house anyway. What I really want to give you is a new Apple Macbook to replace your failing laptop, and that would be a stretch financially, but you just said don't buy anything practical, so I guess that's out.

4) Along those lines, gadgets are out. You spend too much damn time looking at screens anyway as it is.

5) I'd get you lessons or something but you always go once or twice and stop going, so it's a waste of money.

So, look, this isn't as easy as you suggest. And I'm trying. How about you cut me some slack? Or just, I don't know, tell me what you want rather than play some game where I'm supposed to guess and be right?

Anonymous wrote:DW here. I suck at buying gifts and my DH is awesome at it. Every year is a surprise and spot on. I've never even considered returning anything he's given me. I on the other hand suck at it big time.