Anonymous wrote:I actually think the biggest fertility myth is relax and it will happen. Oh no, there definitely couldn't be a medical condition.

I think that's the myth that fertile people perpetuate. The "If you try hard enough, it will happen" myth is the one perpetuated by our own infertility community. I understand that part of it is preserving one's sanity (why would we go through all of this, if not to have success at some future point), but I also think it makes it harder for people to stop ART treatments, because somehow that means you didn't want it badly enough. I want a child very badly, but I also do not want to spend the better part of my 30s in a soul-sucking, emotionally draining cycle of IVF failure.

Um yeah, at least 100k. Plus she went thru Schoolcraft so odds are it took even more. Plus not everyone can go stay at a ritz Carlton or four seasons out in colorado for 10 or more days awaiting the birth of their child.

actually, that is not all i ttook- it took probably upwards of $100,000.00!

Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of a blog post by a woman who lost her daughter to cancer. She was similarly offended when she heard the mom of a surviver say she "wasn't going to let cancer take (her) daughter away". As though the difference between moms whose kids died and those that didn't was just will power.

I think people really can't bear the thought that life is so cruel and random sometimes and say such things to assure themselves they have some control. It's natural but still quite offensive.

I agree, I see this platitude thrown around all the time in the special needs community and it is offensive there as well. And it's always expressed in hindsight. Like here, Giuliana is able to tell us AFTER her baby is born that all it took was not quitting. Hmmmm. So easy for her to say.

PP - couldn't agree more. I would much rather go get a bunch of massages rather than keep going through IVFs!

I actually think the biggest fertility myth is relax and it will happen. Oh no, there definitely couldn't be a medical condition.

This reminds me of a blog post by a woman who lost her daughter to cancer. She was similarly offended when she heard the mom of a surviver say she "wasn't going to let cancer take (her) daughter away". As though the difference between moms whose kids died and those that didn't was just will power.

I think people really can't bear the thought that life is so cruel and random sometimes and say such things to assure themselves they have some control. It's natural but still quite offensive.

Anonymous wrote:It is really sad b/c giuliana and bill are in a position where they really could advocate for people going through infertility but instead they paint an unrealistic picture and seem to only talk about their journey for publicity purposes. Makes me so sad.

Totally agree.