Anonymous
Post 12/02/2012 07:26     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
Why do you think age rules should not apply to your child? Coach is probably looking forward to seeing you go!
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
Post 11/28/2012 13:55     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
I know it can be hard and he will want to play with his friend, but in the long run he will be better off playng with kids his own age and with comparable skills, that he can teach his younger friend so next year when the younger friend moves up he will be ahead. Plus it will give him chances to make new friends as well.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 13:54     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
Anonymous wrote:
so if i were to approach you to take DS so he'd continue to be on the same team, for the 3rd year, with his best buddy from church (a 2nd grader and only 10-mo younger) whom otherwise wouldn't have a chance to play sports together, how would you convince me to drop the request? tks.


They don't have to be on a team together in order to be friends. Find another way to get them together.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 13:43     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:As a coach (volunteer) for my kids football team. I wouldn't want him. If he was a big strong kid I might let him play up an age division but never down.

We did have a kid in the mini-pony division (7-8 y.o. one team of 7 y.o and one of 8y.o.) ) that was 8 but his first year playing and we let him play with the 7 and he wasn't the biggest kind on the team. But he was still in the right division age wise.

The leagues have their age cut-offs for a reason.


so if i were to approach you to take DS so he'd continue to be on the same team, for the 3rd year, with his best buddy from church (a 2nd grader and only 10-mo younger) whom otherwise wouldn't have a chance to play sports together, how would you convince me to drop the request? tks.

First I would look at the other kid and see if maybe he could play up. If that couldn't happen, I would start by reminding you about league rules then I would discuss the fact that your kid might get bored playing with the little kids since it is his third year and that when he does move up with or without his friend he will be behind skillwise with the people his own age. Also since he is older and probably bigger there is a strong possibility that he could inadvertly hurt someone smaller.


tks coach. i know it's time to move on and hopefully DS will be fine. he had great fun on this team the last two seasons.
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
Post 11/28/2012 13:07     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
Anonymous wrote:
ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:As a coach (volunteer) for my kids football team. I wouldn't want him. If he was a big strong kid I might let him play up an age division but never down.

We did have a kid in the mini-pony division (7-8 y.o. one team of 7 y.o and one of 8y.o.) ) that was 8 but his first year playing and we let him play with the 7 and he wasn't the biggest kind on the team. But he was still in the right division age wise.

The leagues have their age cut-offs for a reason.


so if i were to approach you to take DS so he'd continue to be on the same team, for the 3rd year, with his best buddy from church (a 2nd grader and only 10-mo younger) whom otherwise wouldn't have a chance to play sports together, how would you convince me to drop the request? tks.

First I would look at the other kid and see if maybe he could play up. If that couldn't happen, I would start by reminding you about league rules then I would discuss the fact that your kid might get bored playing with the little kids since it is his third year and that when he does move up with or without his friend he will be behind skillwise with the people his own age. Also since he is older and probably bigger there is a strong possibility that he could inadvertantly hurt someone smaller.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 12:33     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:As a coach (volunteer) for my kids football team. I wouldn't want him. If he was a big strong kid I might let him play up an age division but never down.

We did have a kid in the mini-pony division (7-8 y.o. one team of 7 y.o and one of 8y.o.) ) that was 8 but his first year playing and we let him play with the 7 and he wasn't the biggest kind on the team. But he was still in the right division age wise.

The leagues have their age cut-offs for a reason.


so if i were to approach you to take DS so he'd continue to be on the same team, for the 3rd year, with his best buddy from church (a 2nd grader and only 10-mo younger) whom otherwise wouldn't have a chance to play sports together, how would you convince me to drop the request? tks.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 11:55     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
remember the uproar when the mayor of DC put his twins on a team where they were a year or two older than everyone else?
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 11:54     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
yeah, my kids were never on a team that allowed playing down. normally, you can play up - you could put your 9yo on a team for 10 or 11yo but you can't put a 9yo on a team for 7 or 8yos. I don't think it's fair to do that either and would not want my 6 or 7yo playing against a 9yo.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 11:26     Subject: Re:is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
I didn't think you were even allowed to do that. My kids played on rec leagues on and off and they were very strict about age cutoffs.
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
Post 11/28/2012 11:21     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
As a coach (volunteer) for my kids football team. I wouldn't want him. If he was a big strong kid I might let him play up an age division but never down.

We did have a kid in the mini-pony division (7-8 y.o. one team of 7 y.o and one of 8y.o.) ) that was 8 but his first year playing and we let him play with the 7 and he wasn't the biggest kind on the team. But he was still in the right division age wise.

The leagues have their age cut-offs for a reason.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 11:09     Subject: Re:is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why my son doesn't play team sports. He is too big (9 years old, 5'2") to play with kids his age and too young (maturity) to play with kids his size. He does tennis, swimming, and tae kwon do. We figure that there is plenty of time for team sports when he's older. Until then, he is working on control and discipline (TKD) and coordination (tennis).


I'm not sure I understand he quit team sports coz he's 'too big'? Did coaches or parents or teammatew made you/him feel uncomfortable or unwelcomed? Just a couple weeks ago my son U9 team played against two teams each with a very tall player, one at 5' the other could definitely be 5'2. one is super strong the other just above avg for this age group. Sure we chatted about them but they still had fun and our kids didn't mind or seemed bothered.


No, he has never played team sports. He has always been larger than other kids. When he plays with his friends, he holds himself back so they don't get hurt. Sparring in the only chance he gets to use his full strength and that's against older kids. He attends clinics for soccer and basketball and he is always paired with kids 2-3 years older.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 09:52     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
No way. I'd be furious. I have a 6 year old and he's small for his age, putting him on a team with a 9 year old is unfair and unsafe... I don't want him getting knocked around by kids twice his size and three years older. They divide the leagues up by age for a reason.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 08:50     Subject: Re:is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
Anonymous wrote:This is why my son doesn't play team sports. He is too big (9 years old, 5'2") to play with kids his age and too young (maturity) to play with kids his size. He does tennis, swimming, and tae kwon do. We figure that there is plenty of time for team sports when he's older. Until then, he is working on control and discipline (TKD) and coordination (tennis).


I'm not sure I understand he quit team sports coz he's 'too big'? Did coaches or parents or teammatew made you/him feel uncomfortable or unwelcomed? Just a couple weeks ago my son U9 team played against two teams each with a very tall player, one at 5' the other could definitely be 5'2. one is super strong the other just above avg for this age group. Sure we chatted about them but they still had fun and our kids didn't mind or seemed bothered.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 01:35     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
Anonymous wrote:He's in 3rd grade and the rest of the team would be consist of 2nd graders (7 and a few 8-yos). The division may have a few 6yo/1st graders mixed in but should be majority 2nd grade teams.

Still a no? even to parents of this team?


he's 8, putting him in a league with 6, 7, and 8 year olds is fine.
he's 8, putting him in a league with 6 and 7 year olds is not fine.

Anonymous
Post 11/28/2012 00:01     Subject: is this such a bad idea to even ask - putting overage kid in rec sports
Anonymous wrote:He's in 3rd grade and the rest of the team would be consist of 2nd graders (7 and a few 8-yos). The division may have a few 6yo/1st graders mixed in but should be majority 2nd grade teams.

Still a no? even to parents of this team?


but why? why not just put him on the team with his same age peers? this is rec league - for fun? what is your rationale for wanting to put him with the younger kids?