Anonymous
11/14/2012 13:08
Subject: Re:Revealing (to me slutty) clothes on teenage girl. How to stop them?
Anonymous wrote:I know one friend who had the following agreement. Daughter got to choose what she wore to school and mother would not complain (not even if it was cold and daughter wasn't wearing a coat) as long as the rest of the time, mother chose clothing and daughter would not complain. It worked out wonderfully. Daughter looked respectable whenever they went out as a family, to church, even to the store, but daughter got free reign when she was going to school so that she could fit in with her crowd. And by the time the daughter got to high school, she was already self-choosing clothing much more acceptable to the mother.
This is kind of brilliant!
Anonymous
11/14/2012 13:06
Subject: Re:Revealing (to me slutty) clothes on teenage girl. How to stop them?
I know one friend who had the following agreement. Daughter got to choose what she wore to school and mother would not complain (not even if it was cold and daughter wasn't wearing a coat) as long as the rest of the time, mother chose clothing and daughter would not complain. It worked out wonderfully. Daughter looked respectable whenever they went out as a family, to church, even to the store, but daughter got free reign when she was going to school so that she could fit in with her crowd. And by the time the daughter got to high school, she was already self-choosing clothing much more acceptable to the mother.
Anonymous
11/14/2012 13:00
Subject: Revealing (to me slutty) clothes on teenage girl. How to stop them?
Does she have any friends whose style you admire? Or perhaps a slightly older, cool family friend or relative who can take her under her wing?
Anonymous
11/14/2012 13:00
Subject: Revealing (to me slutty) clothes on teenage girl. How to stop them?
My advice. Work together to develop a "no go zone" baseline and then leave the rest up to her.
Anonymous
11/14/2012 12:52
Subject: Re:Revealing (to me slutty) clothes on teenage girl. How to stop them?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I have no advice, but I really wish we could stop using the word slutty and slut. So demeaning.
I think that is the OP's point, that dressing in a slutty way is demeaning.
Well, that's a judgment call. Some people think that dressing in a slutty way is empowering.
No. It is just slutty. You want to be taken seriously? Cover your T & A.
Anonymous
11/14/2012 12:41
Subject: Revealing (to me slutty) clothes on teenage girl. How to stop them?
I wouldn't fight it. She'll grow out of it....and it only takes one or two accidental boob flashes before she figures it out.
Anonymous
11/14/2012 11:44
Subject: Revealing (to me slutty) clothes on teenage girl. How to stop them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have no advice, but I really wish we could stop using the word slutty and slut. So demeaning.
I think that is the OP's point, that dressing in a slutty way is demeaning.
Well, that's a judgment call. Some people think that dressing in a slutty way is empowering.