Anonymous wrote:I know this post was quite a while ago, but hopefully someone will still see my response. I am coming at this from the opposite perspective. I am the forgetful one. I am 5 months pregnant and last night I forgot to turn the oven off and the house started to heat up and my partner woke up really hot and discovered the fact. He was very angry and then gave me the silent treatment this morning. It's something that I do quite a lot. I kept saying it was an accident and that I never mean to do it, but he said I do it too often for it to be an accident. But it really is an accident. I hate it when I do it, as it makes him so worried and makes me worry. He sent me a message today saying he's worried about my ability to look after a kid. I am worried too. I heard on the radio about this case where a mother accidentally left her child out in a hot car to perish. I don't think I would do this, as I think I would be focused on the baby - I am focused on our cat and have managed to keep her in good health - but what if it did happen? What if I become even more forgetful when sleep deprived? I'm starting to wonder if I do have ADD and am not really sure what to do about it. I don't really want to go on medication. Are there techniques to improve your memory of things like this?
Thanks

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Anonymous wrote:I had a roommate like this. She left the burner going full blast twice and I came home to two cats in a houseful of smoke. She also would leave the front door ajar. Shen she moved out she left her bong behind. I'll never know how she hid the smell. She must have done it on the back porch.

The bong explains quite a lot of forgetfulness. I recall those days, distant memories now.

Anonymous wrote:I have this issue as well. My DW regularly leaves doors unlocked in our Arlington home, even when she is the one that unlocks the door, like a side door which is typically locked. On multiple occasions, I have found unlocked doors the next morning. I now check them (and the lights, etc) before I go to bed which is generally after her. On those occasions when I am first to bed, she will forget to turn off the lights when she goes upstairs to bed. She also leaves our cordless phones everywhere. She also regularly can't find her keys, purse, etc. What I do is the following. I generally ignore her questions about where are my keys, etc. It is not my job to keep track of her personal items. But, before I go to bed during the week, I round up her keys, phone, purse, etc, and place them by the back door, so she has them when she heads to work. Otherwise, she regularly would be late to work.

Anonymous wrote:Are we married to the same guy??? My DH does this too. I figure it's not worth getting upset about so I have trained myself to ask him if he has his keys before we leave and I always check the doors and oven at night. The kids may not be wearing matching socks when he's in charge but he's a great dad and husband and that's what is important to me.