OP, take Dr Gordon up on the suggestion for a face to face consult with someone from Dominion. You can talk to them and CFA and then make a decision. Good luck with WW and TTC.

Good luck on WW - if you can (I know it's hard with a kid), attend meetings that really does improve your success. I thought I'd hate them, but in my 3 months or so of not belonging (I thought I could do it alone when hubby came home - totally can't!), I really miss it - everyone is going through it together, and you do well together. DM me if you have any questions - happy to help with that.

Also, one reason to consider not going back to CFA is because you've been with them so long. A new place might give you a new set of eyes. Just a thought.

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, to me that didn't sound like it was 'out'. It sounded to me like he would want to meet and evaluate you, then give you an honest answer based on that. The fact that he offered discussion IUI v/s NCIVF to me, makes me not see what you think they wouldn't treat you. Why not have a face to face?

OP here:

So I am joining Weight Watchers this week. Like tomorrow.


I think what I'm going to do is have a serious conversation with CFA (Dr. A) to feel them out regarding their experience/success on NCIVF and if I'm not convinced that they are experienced and forth right enough I'm going to go to Dominion for a consult. If Dominion seems hesitant or say no, I'm going to try GW. I'm just thinking that maybe I should at least give CFA a chance because I have been with them for so long.

Hi OP:
I don't know much about NCIVF (my doc said it wasn't worth the cost, since it is about maximizing your chances, really - and we have male factor, not female, so we need to allow more eggs to fertilize).
Anyway, I just wanted to say that I go to GW and have never once had anything said about my weight.
The OB I went to for my pre-conception meeting, that I'm actually not going to use because getting Sibley is a pain in the butt, only said that because of my weight, she would want to do extra monitoring for gestational diabetes. And my current PCP, whom I love but I have to leave because I'm moving to MD IPA for IVF (but will go back to her after this year if I can) never made me feel bad about myself, either.
Medical care is about surrounding yourself with people who make you comfortable - now, my doc DOES say, "I'd love if you could lose ____lbs" and when I lost a lot, was a great cheerleader.

Find providers who care about you as a whole patient. I would think that a for-profit place like DF or SG cares a lot about its statistics.

Try GW if you can. I've been very happy with the attention and honesty there. I am hopeful that they can get us to have a family.

(the docs I mentioned above were Snyder at Foxhall and Lucas at Contemporary Family Medicine, both of whom I will not be using while I have MD IPA, but highly recommend if you are concerned about preachy weight loss advice from docs).

I also recommend Weight Watchers - I lost almost 75lbs with them. I gained a bit back since my husband returned from his deployment and finally got back on WW with meetings. I hate to say it, but it really does work and I was a skeptic)

Good luck!

Hi OP, to me that didn't sound like it was 'out'. It sounded to me like he would want to meet and evaluate you, then give you an honest answer based on that. The fact that he offered discussion IUI v/s NCIVF to me, makes me not see what you think they wouldn't treat you. Why not have a face to face?