Anonymous
12/18/2013 09:51
Subject: Re:I dont like overnight guests
I used to be that way.
What solved it?
Our house now has a full bath and separate bedroom on basement level off a small rec room.
We sleep 2 levels up on the bedroom level. The guests have their own tv and living space and I can't hear them at all.
I also never use that bathroom. Not having them in my space made all the difference.
We also live in a very walkable area so guests take a key and love to explore on their own.
What solved it?
Our house now has a full bath and separate bedroom on basement level off a small rec room.
We sleep 2 levels up on the bedroom level. The guests have their own tv and living space and I can't hear them at all.
I also never use that bathroom. Not having them in my space made all the difference.
We also live in a very walkable area so guests take a key and love to explore on their own.
Anonymous
12/18/2013 09:48
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
I'm an introvert but I LOVE house guests. It just puts me in a more cheerful mood. Even with my MIL came into town for a week we had fun.
Be grateful that someone wants to visit you. I have quite a few coworkers with little or no family. They spend Thanksgiving and Christmas alone most of the time or rely on friends to invite them out.
Be grateful that someone wants to visit you. I have quite a few coworkers with little or no family. They spend Thanksgiving and Christmas alone most of the time or rely on friends to invite them out.
Anonymous
12/18/2013 09:42
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
I am an introvert and I both enjoy staying at hotels when we visit friends/family in another city AND I prefer they do the same when they visit us.
Luckily, we have a very small townhome and no extra bedrooms, so that is a good excuse for us to use, so our guests DO stay in a hotel! WHEW!
I just like to have downtime in between "events," so if I were to host someone 24-7 for a couple of days on end, I would be like an enervated jellyfish catatonically staring off into space by the end of the visit.
Luckily, we have a very small townhome and no extra bedrooms, so that is a good excuse for us to use, so our guests DO stay in a hotel! WHEW!
I just like to have downtime in between "events," so if I were to host someone 24-7 for a couple of days on end, I would be like an enervated jellyfish catatonically staring off into space by the end of the visit.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 22:28
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
I hate being an overnight guest.
And I hate that people get offended when I don't want to stay at their house.
And I hate that people get offended when I don't want to stay at their house.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 22:06
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
Like 17:38 mentions, we also have a very small place (renting an apartment, and it's just enough for us without any guests). Hate it whenever we have to have someone overnight, and luckily it is rare, but there is always an upheaval. Need to give up the main bed, get an inflatable mattress or something else to rest on. Just a big annoyance. Plus, we have only one bathroom.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 18:43
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
Im an introvert too and NEED my space ( even with DH and kids). I can have overnight vuests but one night only.. Anymore and I just need them to leave (even close friends and family). Maybe I am selfish but it is draining for me to have other people in my space too long
Anonymous
10/25/2012 17:38
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
New poster here
Those of you that like having overnight guests, do you have a dedicated "guest room?" We don't. So overnight guests can be a PITA in that either we have to move people out of their rooms, or set up blow up mattresses, etc. It's a lot of work when we already have a pretty full schedule.
Those of you that like having overnight guests, do you have a dedicated "guest room?" We don't. So overnight guests can be a PITA in that either we have to move people out of their rooms, or set up blow up mattresses, etc. It's a lot of work when we already have a pretty full schedule.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 17:34
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
They never seemed to bother me before I had an AP and she started to invite friends and family and I was sick of strangers eating my food and occupying my home for days on end...
I think a day or two is fine, but longer than that, they need to get a hotel.
I think a day or two is fine, but longer than that, they need to get a hotel.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 17:20
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
OP, I can totally relate. I am an introvert and use the evenings to recharge. I rarely invite people to stay overnight and, if I do, I limit it to a few nights. DH understands me and always asks before inviting. I do enjoy hosting people during the day or early evening and everyone has a great time because I like to take care of people. Selfish? No, it's knowing your limits. If you have trouble saying no, convert your guestroom to an office, exercise or media room. Have a list of reasonably-priced accommodations available. Good luck!
Anonymous
10/25/2012 15:45
Subject: Re:I dont like overnight guests
Friends are fine. I hate when family visits. My sister's kid can't eat anything I buy or prepare and requires another trip to the grocery store. This is after I have asked for a list of stuff before they arrive. I get the wrong brand, flavor, size, whatever. My sugar bowl was chipped and my towels were speckled from DD's bleach accident. For some reason my sister was offended and bought me a new sugar bowl and 4 towels. She took the bus to Friendship Heights to buy this and complained about how long it took. It's unbearable. She mentioned coming this spring and I'm already hyperventilating.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 15:43
Subject: Re:I dont like overnight guests
Anonymous wrote:Depending on who the overnight guests are I usually find their visit pleasant. If its the inlaws then no - they are better in a hotel. But friends?! Generally they entertain the kids, they help cook and clean. They provide a distraction from "having" to do homework and other stuff. We are usually sad to see them go. Family is different - they don't cook, help with the kids and we are looking forward to the moment they leave.
Same here. When friends come, we hardly change our routine except it gets easier as they pitch in, mind the kids while we get something done, and are just happy to be there. Love to stay up and enjoy drinks while catching up.
With family, they have been know to sit on their butts watching TV virtually their whole visit, and expect us to watch with them, plus they sleep in making us have to be quiet in the morning with two toddlers in the house.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 15:35
Subject: Re:I dont like overnight guests
Depending on who the overnight guests are I usually find their visit pleasant. If its the inlaws then no - they are better in a hotel. But friends?! Generally they entertain the kids, they help cook and clean. They provide a distraction from "having" to do homework and other stuff. We are usually sad to see them go. Family is different - they don't cook, help with the kids and we are looking forward to the moment they leave.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 15:34
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
Anonymous wrote:
You're not an introvert. You're selfish. I'm very introverted and I can happily open my home to friends and family. You just never learned how to share.
Right because every extrovert drinks alcohol and is the life of the party. That's the problem with people...I am therefore you are
Anonymous
10/25/2012 15:29
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
I can't stand overnight guests either. I really love to host parties etc, but I HATE overnight guests. And I REALLY dislike when the overnight guest is my MIL. The worst.
Anonymous
10/25/2012 15:26
Subject: I dont like overnight guests
Anonymous wrote:1458... I am not an ass. I am an introvert who finds it physically draining to entertain people. I don't mind socializing but there is the whole world to socialize and pretend to be extroverted. In my home is where I draw the line. That's my one place.
1459 I do tell people, but not exactly how I said it here. I try to be nice but people don't get it. They expect you to cater to them. I find it to be rude. And its offensive that there is this notion that I need to change. No I don't. I am fine. If you don't get it maybe you need to change into a person with better manners. Everyone doesn't want you in their face all the time. There is room for all types of people.
You're not an introvert. You're selfish. I'm very introverted and I can happily open my home to friends and family. You just never learned how to share.