Anonymous wrote:Moms have errands to run, need to cook, etc... Who the hell hangs out for an entire day at someone else's house?

You can't cook while talking to someone?

Anonymous wrote:I disagree, PP. etiquette is universal. You do not stay more than an hour to an hour and a half for a play date. M

BS. A person who says this has never stepped outside their neighborhood.

In my country burping in public is considered gross and embarrassing. Here you can get away with it saying excuse me.

In my country it's common to greet people kissing them on the cheeks even when you introduce yourself. Here? Not really.

Anyway, this is one of the things I miss from my country. The freedom to come to a friend's house unannounced and stick around all day if we don't have plans. We always have some extras in the pantry or fridge in case someone stops by to spend the day. I remember growing up our home was always full of laughter, people coming and going. We always had someone to play with. We could go to our friend's house without calling or setting up anything formal. Our moms would come home from work and sit outside and talk while we played on the driveway. There was never a settled routine and still we always managed to do homework, eat a fresh warm meal and have quality time together.

Here you guys want to control every single second of your day in such a crazy manner, you're always in a rush and complaining on how you don't have time for this, for that or wishing you could do things differently. No doubt why every other woman I know is in some sort of anxiety medication, anti-depressives or whatever meds to help them cope with life.

Moms have errands to run, need to cook, etc... Who the hell hangs out for an entire day at someone else's house?

I disagree, PP. etiquette is universal. You do not stay more than an hour to an hour and a half for a play date. M

You really share the blame in this. If you are not being specific then you certainly share the responsibility for the extended stay. I know this may come as a shock but playdates are a fairly new concept. Most new parents were not raised with playdates. You went outside or played with your cousins or next door neighbor without some big playdate label. If you are receiving an invitation without a timeframe then it might be seem rude to say I'm outta here at 4.

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Anonymous wrote:Are those people sticking around American or from other countries?

I have American firneds who did this. First ones to arrive at the party and last to leave. Could not take a hint.

Why are you hinting instead of just being direct?

Serious question.

It wasn't my question but I do know moms who are recent immigrants to the U.S. - husbands are working and they don't have work visas yet and are lonely/overwhelmed in a new country; they often make plans where one mom will go to another's home with her baby and they'll spend the day together - just to get out of the house and have someone to talk to who speaks the language. That's totally different than this situation though, as I think the plans are made for the whole day in advance.

Anonymous wrote:flick the lights on and off...

op, she's probably bored and/or feeling isolated. or she may have had no sense of how much time had elapsed due to personality and/or sleep deprivation.

i would just set the time and/or politely tell her you have an errand to run if she doesn't take the hint

lmao!!!