Anonymous wrote:In the '50s-

Out of wedlock kids
Criminal record
Bankruptcy/financial problems
Divorce
Cleanliness of home & kids
Convience foods
Poorly behaved kids
Bad grades & bad conduct reports from school
Working mothers
Child free couples
Gays
Interracial & interfaith marriages
Tattoos
Piercings

Pretty much the same stuff I look down on to this day!

"Overall, I rarely remember her saying anything negative or snarky about the way other people parented. I don't know if that was because she was the one doing the unconventional parenting, or whether mommy snarking just wasn't as much of a cultural thing in the 1970s."

Women judging women has always been around.

My mom worked, and I know she was judged by others for it.

She was also judged for forcing us to wear bike helmets.

Also, my parents were judged by a lot of extended family for moving away from the town they grew up in.

My mother was right out of the 1950's (graduated high school in 1955). She judged others for working outside the home and having only one child.

My mom judged parents who sent their kids to public school. (and we grew up in Fairfax county!)

Anonymous wrote:My mother was (and is) uber judgmental. She judged your mom for EVERYTHING, and she wasn't anywhere near perfect herself.

She'd fit right in on DCUM.

I have no idea since we were always outside playing, or at the pool from sun up to sun down (unsupervised!).
I really don't know that we ever had these type of conversations with my parents. They both worked (a lot) and we were latch key kids and roamed the neighborhood looking for friends who had good snack food a their houses (like soda and chips) which we never had at home...
I am sure the other parents loved us
Plus we always needed rides to practices and games and movies, etc. my parents didn't ever want to drive us anywhere and we hated taking the metro (plus other parents thought we were too young to be doing it alone so we usually caught rides with friends.

Just remembered another one: my mom went really nutso if parents let their kids walk around our house while eating a bite here, a bite there. We had to SIT DOWN for our meal and I think our eyes probably bugged out of our heads to see a child wandering around, while eating. One of my aunts let my cousins do this while eating at our house and it drove my mom insane.

I know my mom was judged a lot because she wore jeans and other very casual wear, and she often didn't wear a bra (she's almost completely flat-chested), and hippie-type sandals, plus maxi-skirts. She also worked.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Misusing apostrophes.

actually i bet they didn't...how often did anyone even see their writing back before email and on-lines forums?

This is a little bit different, but my mom got super-bugged if teachers made errors on paperwork sent home.

My mom, a SAHM, judged working moms if their kids were allowed to roam around unsupervised after school hours. She did not judge working moms, mind you. Just working moms who did not hire babysitters or ensure that their kids were attended to after school. She thought it was horrible when this one working mom would let her two kids just basically hagn out at the pool all summer long, with no one really watching them at all. The mom asked me, a lifeguard, to sort of keep an eye on them and offered ot pay me a miniscule amount, and my mom was outraged at this and made me tell the mom no. The funny thing was also that this mom was a very outspoken, militant, feminiist, who had a column in the local paper, about how it was so fabulous adn easy to have kids and work too. So my mom was like, "OH HELL NO," when this mom approached me about this sort of chintzy ersatz babysitting job when my real job was supposed to be lifeguarding.

Anonymous wrote:Misusing apostrophes.

actually i bet they didn't...how often did anyone even see their writing back before email and on-lines forums?

I was a child in the 70s, for reference. In the Midwest.

-- divorce

-- not being an active member of a Catholic or Lutheran church. Not putting the kids in CCD or Sunday school for the Protestants.

-- letting kids be latch-key kids, instead of hiring a damn babysitter for them.

-- being uneducated (which meant not going to college) and blue collar -- even with the same HHI as us +/-

-- not putting your child in any enriching activities (any were fine) and instead buying "stuff" with that same cash. ie, jet skis, Beta/VHS, separate phone lines for the teens. That sort of choice really galled her.

In the '50s-

Out of wedlock kids
Criminal record
Bankruptcy/financial problems
Divorce
Cleanliness of home & kids
Convience foods
Poorly behaved kids
Bad grades & bad conduct reports from school
Working mothers
Child free couples
Gays
Interracial & interfaith marriages
Tattoos
Piercings

In my mother's social circle, moms were judged on the same things they are today - which school kids attend, how kids are dressed, kids' manners, grades, summer camps, birthday parties, home decor etc. My mother hated it and refused to play the game, so we turned out to have pretty independent streaks.