Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:37     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor on my street who doesn't write THANK YOU notes when given gifts, birthday gifts for her child (she doesn't help the kid write any).

During the time she has lived on our street, I've noticed this. I don't know her that well, but was invited to her 40th birthday party several years ago.. I brought a gift Amazon card and a nice card..no thank you note. No acknowledgement or thank you verbally. Nada.

Her daughter turned 7 a few weeks ago, and my daughter was invited. WE brought a nice gift and card. Again, no thank you.


Huh?? Drives me crazy. When I see her she just waves and walks on.

Very educated woman but this is truly classless in my opinion.



Here's what you do, OP. You get everyone in the neighborhood over to her house with torches and pitchforks, chanting "Kill the beast! Kill the beast!"
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:36     Subject: Re:What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bad manners. I don't care about thank you notes, but I at least want someone to say "thank you" when I give them something.


OP didn't say the neighbor doesn't say thank you.


Yes, she did.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:26     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:I always write thank you notes and so do my kids but I could not care less if I am not given one. Never give it a moment's thought.


I don't care if I don't get a written thank you note, but I do care if someone doesn't say thank you to my face or call me or email me or something. It drives me absolutely batshit.

If you don't say "thank you" for help or a favor, it's the last gift or favor you will ever get from me.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:11     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
I always write thank you notes and so do my kids but I could not care less if I am not given one. Never give it a moment's thought.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:04     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:I was taught that if you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them to their face, then a thank you note is not necessary.
you were taught wrong. Miss manners has a column in the wash post, its vet informative. To all the people making excuses about bit writing notes because they weren't trained to do it as kids, I want either. I am really good about sending thankyou notes and my mom recently commented that I'm the only one of my siblings who acknowledges gifts at all. Either you have a spirit of gratitude or you don't.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:01     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor on my street who doesn't write THANK YOU notes when given gifts, birthday gifts for her child (she doesn't help the kid write any).

During the time she has lived on our street, I've noticed this. I don't know her that well, but was invited to her 40th birthday party several years ago.. I brought a gift Amazon card and a nice card..no thank you note. No acknowledgement or thank you verbally. Nada.

Her daughter turned 7 a few weeks ago, and my daughter was invited. WE brought a nice gift and card. Again, no thank you.


Huh?? Drives me crazy. When I see her she just waves and walks on.

Very educated woman but this is truly classless in my opinion.



You are my twin. Cannot stand when folks don't write thank-you notes. I'd back off as, to me, this sounds like she is saying she doens't really care about you or for you.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:00     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
If you said thank you upon receiving the gift, thank you notes are quite unnecessary IMO.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 12:00     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was taught that if you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them to their face, then a thank you note is not necessary.


+1

True, but apparently, OP's neighbor didn't even do that.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 11:57     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:I was taught that if you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them to their face, then a thank you note is not necessary.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 11:56     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:Ugh, i opened this fearing it was one of my neighbors. My family was not a stickler for this, and I am also a slacker. Last month, the week before my daughter's birthday, I found the stack of thank you notes from the prior year's gifts - I had forced her to write them, but then we've never delivered them. All that pain for nothing.

THis year we've struggled through writing 2 of the 5. GOT to get ON this. I need to up my game.


You are my long lost twin.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 11:54     Subject: Re:What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
She doesn't like you.


If the neighbor doesn't like OP, why does she keep inviting her to parties?
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 11:52     Subject: Re:What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Ugh, i opened this fearing it was one of my neighbors. My family was not a stickler for this, and I am also a slacker. Last month, the week before my daughter's birthday, I found the stack of thank you notes from the prior year's gifts - I had forced her to write them, but then we've never delivered them. All that pain for nothing.

THis year we've struggled through writing 2 of the 5. GOT to get ON this. I need to up my game.



But at least you think about it and at least you try..
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 11:43     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
I was taught that if you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them to their face, then a thank you note is not necessary.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 11:39     Subject: What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Ugh, i opened this fearing it was one of my neighbors. My family was not a stickler for this, and I am also a slacker. Last month, the week before my daughter's birthday, I found the stack of thank you notes from the prior year's gifts - I had forced her to write them, but then we've never delivered them. All that pain for nothing.

THis year we've struggled through writing 2 of the 5. GOT to get ON this. I need to up my game.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2012 11:00     Subject: Re:What's with the lady in my neighborhood who cannot be bothered with thank you notes?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bad manners. I don't care about thank you notes, but I at least want someone to say "thank you" when I give them something.


OP didn't say the neighbor doesn't say thank you.



Yes she did. Try reading the whole post. It's 'buried' in the phrase "No acknowledgement or thank you verbally. Nada. "