Anonymous wrote:Perhaps this is a fake post, but so what. How exactly is a transgendered woman suppose to gracefully reveal her identity change? It would have to be emotionally difficult. When was she to tell him after the third date, during the throes of passion?

OP, perhaps couples therapy with a specialist will help you both. Do you know why it's bothering you that she used to be a man? Are you feeling that you have been having sex with a man?

Ummm... yes. She should probably tell him sometime between the third date and six months. It is difficult, but it has to be done.

If OP is not a troll, only he can decide if its a deal breaker or not. Hiding it for a long time is a problem. Not being able to have biological children might be a problem. On the other hand, if you love her, you love her.

It's fine as long as (s)he is voting for the right candidate in the November election.

Her huge feet and hands, not to mention her adam's apple, never gave you pause?

Gimme a break.

I disagree with everyone saying the late disclosure is the problem here. She came clean before he proposed marriage. Is she supposed to go around with a scarlet T on her?

The OP (if real) has more important issues to think about. First, sexuality is often confused at a genetic level, so it's not like his GF is a man in drag. Maybe, but likely not. Second is the reproductive challenge, but that can happen with a woman-from-birth.

I think Steven Tyler has some advice on this topic . . .

In all seriousness, when IS the right time to make this disclosure?

Perhaps this is a fake post, but so what. How exactly is a transgendered woman suppose to gracefully reveal her identity change? It would have to be emotionally difficult. When was she to tell him after the third date, during the throes of passion?

OP, perhaps couples therapy with a specialist will help you both. Do you know why it's bothering you that she used to be a man? Are you feeling that you have been having sex with a man?

First of all, I doubt that this is real. Surely somehow over the last three years things would have come up that would have had to start this conversation. I would think that sex would feel different .. But.. on the off chance that it is real..

For all of you saying that she is still the same person, you're wrong.
This was probably someone that he envisioned marrying and then having his own biological children with, and that picture of a future would undoubtedly have to change, which he may not want. This is someone that he trusted and thought he knew well enough to live together. Then he finds out that she's been lying this whole time. No matter what he decides to do, he has to get used to the idea that what he thought he had, and was going to have is just no more.

Anonymous wrote:Do these type of people have standard vaginas? I am confused. What about the reverse? Can you get a working penis attached?

This.

But you never know, pubic hair may have prevented him from seeing evidence that she may not have a regular vagina. But then again, he should have detected the wall (cervix) between her vagina and uterus. Doesn't guys not know these things? ....I thought all men had PhD's in "Pussy." I guess not.

Do these type of people have standard vaginas? I am confused. What about the reverse? Can you get a working penis attached?

If true, run a mile and don't look back. There's nothing to think about.

Anonymous wrote:Is this a joke? Have you not gone south and realized she looks 'different'? Is this your first gf? First time you've seen a vagina? Seriously try harder next time, troll.

This.

Is this a joke? Have you not gone south and realized she looks 'different'? Is this your first gf? First time you've seen a vagina? Seriously try harder next time, troll.

This was a plot line in nip/tuck.

Deal breaker if you want biological children unless you have money for a surrogate. I think this is fake anyway. How do you date someone for 3 years and never meet family. It's doubtful that the family home wouldn't have childhood pics up.

Anonymous wrote:She is every bit a woman now, even a gynecologist would not know the difference in her vagina. If you love her, you love her.

Cousin to a transgender female, you don't know what you are talking about.

That being said, love the person, not the plumbing.