Anonymous wrote:Well technically the father can indeed argue that this would be child abduction.

True
Custody cases must be resolved in the country where the child lives.
And your home country would be obligated to return the child.
You must get custody. Then if you are deported, you are deported with the child. Is the fathers name on the birth certificate? If it is not, you have no problem. If paternity has been established, he must pay child support and has a legal right to see his child.
Whatever you do, do not put yourself in more danger by marrying him. Do not listen to the crazies on this forum who tell you are a bad mother for leaving your kid. You first have to save yourself.
The man sounds like an asshole and those familiar with domestic violence know what signs to look for.
So find the social workkers and other professionals who will help you get your child bck. By default they are on the childs side, not anyone else.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I could be better with my son in my country the thing is that since he was born here ffx county/ US wont let me take him since his father will show court that he can afford and have a better life here .

he has 2 passports already, hes father knows that our son could have a good life there but he wouldnt ever put his guard down.

What's your status with your ex right now? Does he hate your guts or is he still open to marrying you? If you were married to him and could document his abuse you would have a stronger chance of obtaining custody of your son. I would marry him, apply for permanent residency, and document the abuse (restraining order, pictures, etc).

OP, you have placed your little boy in a shitty situation and you must fight like an animal to protect him. No way in hell would I leave him unprotected living with that evil asshole. Stop acting so helpless. If he abused you like that what the fuck do you think he's doing to your son when no one else is around.

Have you tried taking your son to your home country? If not, why not? It sounds like you haven't tried several things to protect him because you've been told they won't work, but have been given some bad information in the past.

There is no way I would leave my kids for an hour with someone who has choked me or pepper sprayed me, never mind turning over custody.

Well technically the father can indeed argue that this would be child abduction.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I could be better with my son in my country the thing is that since he was born here ffx county/ US wont let me take him since his father will show court that he can afford and have a better life here .

he has 2 passports already, hes father knows that our son could have a good life there but he wouldnt ever put his guard down.

I find it hard to believe! Are you saying you'd be detained at customs when you're trying to leave the country with your son who is an official citizen of another country??

OP, why don't you go back to your home country? If you son is a citizen, he'd be able to claim his citizenship when he's old enough. In the meantime, you won't have to suffer abuse.

Or are you so into staying in this country that you're willing to put up with anything?

How Long ago did you leave

I'm sure I could be better with my son in my country the thing is that since he was born here ffx county/ US wont let me take him since his father will show court that he can afford and have a better life here .

he has 2 passports already, hes father knows that our son could have a good life there but he wouldnt ever put his guard down.

OP HERE,

You know i think about it everyday... but i can't he use to choke me until I faint, He opened my eye lids, my lips and he even pepper spray me (on my private) because i didnt feel like having sex with him anymore.. I feel like if I marry him he will end up killing me and I'm not taking this chance.

By the way I wish I was a troll.. if you want to meet me somewhere.. check all my paper work from court, see in my eyes that i'm NOT lying and see all my pics with my son.. please open a new email account and post it here I wil reply to u with my pics..and I will meet you. I'm not afraid of YOU only of my ex..

I think you would be better off with your baby in your country.

Classic anchor baby problems.

You can also contact Catholic Charities. I believe if you conduct a Google search, you should be able to find one in your area.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm also feeling the Troll vibe from you, "good night moon." Ha-ha.

I don't normally condone women returning to a domestic violent relationship, but in this messy situation, I would advise you go back to your ex and marry him and become a permanent resident. Then divorce him.

Do you know how long it takes?

Six months to two years. You will need to submit documents (medical exam, questionnaire with hubby, etc.). After you go down to the courthouse and make it legal get in touch with an immigration attorney. You have placed your baby in direct harm, at least, with you in the household you can protect him. Be strong and use your brain and whatever else to protect your baby and self, Woman.

Anonymous wrote:I'm also feeling the Troll vibe from you, "good night moon." Ha-ha.

I don't normally condone women returning to a domestic violent relationship, but in this messy situation, I would advise you go back to your ex and marry him and become a permanent resident. Then divorce him.

Do you know how long it takes?

You left your child? Nice mom.