Who cares about their wedding? Don't go to their wedding and have your own at the place you planned. This means nothing more than other people get married at "your" place.

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Anonymous wrote:However, part of the problem and why we had told all our friends in advance about our plans is the cost involved. Several of fiancees friends do not make a lot of money and have to plan vacations in advance. So he had wanted to give the heads up that hey... in about a year we are getting married at this location, so start planning. So now, we don't feel like we could put his friends in that situation to shell out for two weddings.

This is probably a sign that your plan was too expensive to begin with--if friends are being told to start saving a year in advance!

+1

OP, NEWS FLASH if your friends can't afford it then they won't be saving or going to your wedding, period. Every destination wedding I've been to (too many) random folks that like to travel show up. Rarely do most close friends or family because, as non-travel junkies, they spend money elsewhere.

This is a blessing in disguise. Make your wedding locale so your well, sick, and poor friends & family can be there. Seriously.

Anonymous wrote:Let this be the worst of your problems.

+1

Just wait til you've been married a few years, have a couple kids, a mortgage, job pressures, home repairs, your parents are sick again, etc etc etc. NONE of this stuff is going to matter, or even be remembered.

A wedding is a DAY; a marriage is a lifetime. Please try to keep that in mind.

Anonymous wrote:Just don't go to their wedding and don't invite them to yours. Ignore the fact of their wedding and move on with your life and wedding plans.

This has to be the stupidest, most childish "advice" I've ever seen.

OMG! I hope you didn't describe what kind of ring you want! Or dress! Or the name of your first girl/boy! I'm sure seeing someone get married at that place before you do is just going to totally ruin it for you. Maybe you should think about getting married somewhere else. And, don't discuss any more wedding plans in front of this guy. The nerve!

I don't get what the big deal is. So what if they're at the same place? I don't understand why a couple thinks people want to/should spend a lot of money for a destination wedding - which is what this is if your friends have to start saving now to attend. I hope you're not expecting gifts from them.

First, how much overlap is there between this couple and yourself in terms of friends and family friends? Won't the venue be new to most of your guests?

Second, given that they are planning their wedding pretty quickly and at a different time of year, the two weddings will probably be very different from one another.

Third, you have much bigger issues on your plate than a petty (you said it) dispute about wedding venues. A much bigger priority is supporting your parents and families through health scares, and also your relationship with your fiance.

Fourth, you haven't even booked the venue yet. You don't have any right to it by having mentioned it (even several times) to these people.

Anonymous wrote:Huge eye roll here. This vent belongs on the wedding channel, where freaky obsessed brides live, or the knot or whatever venue now serves that weirdo subculture. Why are you posting on a parenting site - Anyone who has kids understands that wedding neuroses would presumably have maured enough to realize that no one owns a possible, future wedding venue and even if this did cramp your oh-so-special, unique wedding extravaganza, it actually doesn't matter at all! So why DCUM, op?

And we'll all be waiting for you to post again in a few years, full of outrage that your friend has "stolen" your someday future baby name...

Another HUGE eye roll. No one gives a fuck. OP isn't married, no kids, WTH is she doing on DCUM venting about this shit. Go to the knot or whatever...

Anonymous wrote:I've posted a few times that I'm going to let it go but i just needed to vent. Thanks, I've vented and now i feel better!

Go ahead and now think about the dress. That part is always more fun.

Anonymous wrote:However, part of the problem and why we had told all our friends in advance about our plans is the cost involved. Several of fiancees friends do not make a lot of money and have to plan vacations in advance. So he had wanted to give the heads up that hey... in about a year we are getting married at this location, so start planning. So now, we don't feel like we could put his friends in that situation to shell out for two weddings.

This is probably a sign that your plan was too expensive to begin with--if friends are being told to start saving a year in advance!

Ok, you needed to vent, you are done venting! Enjoy your planning with your fiance and concentrate on your future together and don't sweat the small stuff.

I've posted a few times that I'm going to let it go but i just needed to vent. Thanks, I've vented and now i feel better!

Just thought you'd like to know:

He's the fiance (one e).

You're the fiancee (two e's)

You're welcome

How doe this affect your wedding? It doesn't. At all. And you're not happy for him, you're judging him. The weddings will be almost a year apart! Get over yourself.

Why in the world would you look for a different venue? Your weddings are going to be 10 months apart.

Let. It. Go.