OP here.

Sorry I was not clear enough. Like PP clarified the mom was pregnant with #2 when dad left.

In my home country it's not uncommon having men taking the wife's last name after marriage and that's what this guy did that's why I believe his dad doesn't know it's his son. And what he's doing is charity work, nobody is paying to be treated at that clinic. He didn't know the patient was his dad until he talked to his mom about it. It's a large clinic and you don't always get to see the same doctor. You get in line and whoever is free when it's your turn will treat you. I guess you're not familiar on how universal health care works.

Well, anyway, he could not afford Med School when we graduated from HS. He worked his butt off to save money and started later on. Don't people do that here? Do whatever job to make money then, later on in life go for the career of their dream...

Sorry my story sounded so unbelievable. This only comes to prove that we're losing our sense of community and actually to prove my point. Being noble and selfless is so rare that when it happens people don't believe it.

And to the PP that says that holding a door and saying thank you is hard work, WOW! That's scary.. I hope you're not passing this behavior for your children.

My husband is like this. He has a heart of gold. He works a very stressful job, yet manages to volunteer at least 20 hours a week to a local non-profit. He's also incredibly down to earth, humble, and kind. He is also one of the smartest, most successful people I know. His parents are the same way.

No, PP, he was just a deadbeat! He left anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the part about the father not knowing the son is his doctor rings very false.

Not to mention that the doctor, in treating his own father, is inching up to, if not violating, canons of medical ethics because he has a conflict of interest due to the close family relationship.

And did he leave when the son was 3 or when the mom was 7 months pregnant? Geez.

I read it as the dad left when the friend was 3 yo and the mom was 7 months pregnant with a younger sibling. So it didn't ring questionably to me.

I don't have a problem with a son treating his father, as long as he has some other physician (perhaps another doctor in his practice) who can step in if there is anything serious that happens. However, I think the stretch of ethics for me is for him to be treating the father without letting the father know that he is the son. That to me is a breach of ethics. A patient should have the right to know that their doctor has a conflict of interest in their own care.

So the dad impregnated the mother twice without knowing he was the father of either?

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the part about the father not knowing the son is his doctor rings very false.

Not to mention that the doctor, in treating his own father, is inching up to, if not violating, canons of medical ethics because he has a conflict of interest due to the close family relationship.

And did he leave when the son was 3 or when the mom was 7 months pregnant? Geez.

I read it as the dad left when the friend was 3 yo and the mom was 7 months pregnant with a younger sibling. So it didn't ring questionably to me.

I don't have a problem with a son treating his father, as long as he has some other physician (perhaps another doctor in his practice) who can step in if there is anything serious that happens. However, I think the stretch of ethics for me is for him to be treating the father without letting the father know that he is the son. That to me is a breach of ethics. A patient should have the right to know that their doctor has a conflict of interest in their own care.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the part about the father not knowing the son is his doctor rings very false.

Not to mention that the doctor, in treating his own father, is inching up to, if not violating, canons of medical ethics because he has a conflict of interest due to the close family relationship.

And did he leave when the son was 3 or when the mom was 7 months pregnant? Geez.

Wow. I can't believe this thread. I know plenty of wealthy people who are humble and generous and plenty of not wealthy people who think they are somehow above it.

If you think you have to be wealthy to be an a&&hole; or poor to be nice and generous - you're an idiot.

Yeah, the part about the father not knowing the son is his doctor rings very false.

Not to mention that the doctor, in treating his own father, is inching up to, if not violating, canons of medical ethics because he has a conflict of interest due to the close family relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like it's really hard ot be one of those noble, selfless people unless you're rich. I volunteer weekly, but not at a non-profit, and I don't have $100 to give away.

Do you have cable? A cell phone? Shop at Trader Joe's or Whole Foods?

Seriously PP. Get off of it.

Just say, 'I don't choose to spend $100 at a time on charity.' It's not hard to own your behavior.