Hey OP. Back to your actual questions, i terminated at 21 wks at GW via L&D. They were really good to me. I ended up switching to their practice for OB care. I would recommend them highly. Personally, I would not have dealt well with traveling or with being around family/friends/hotel, so that is something to consider. My husband stayed with me. it did take a long time for L&D. They started my cytotec 2.5 days before I delivered.

It was really difficult emotionally, but looking back I know it was the right decision for me and my family and I do not have regrets. I will always miss that baby, but I did not want him to live with his many health issues. I did have another baby, a healthy one, the following year and I treasure him that much more. Remember that this isn't your fault and things will be better, with some time.

I terminated at 22wks for fetal anomaly. Because my husband is in the military, we had delays in getting follow-up to a bad 20w US. Our only option was a clinic. We too choose to travel and be near my family for the procedure. The waiting room was tough because it was full of people. The staff was wonderful and caring. The clinic had a Director of Fetal Anomaly on staff who we met with and she was awesome. I had the laminaria placed one day before and my procedure was the next afternoon.

The hormone crash afterwards is brutal but I can confidently say 4 years later that I have no regrets.

Only you can make the RIGHT choice for YOU and your family.

Anonymous wrote:Not either of the PPs, but I do think these are loving, caring suggestions and are not made by horrible people as some others have suggested. The OP desrves to know all of her options. To call them horrible or ugly is in fact very rude and uncaring to those who may have chosen them. These suggestions were offered very gently and humbly, and were met only with animosity and bile. Way to be champtions of "choice" and "freedom."

OP has made her choice. It was clearly wrenching, but she has made it. It is not for you or any other PP to harass and further traumatize her with unnecessary and unasked for "options," regardless of how "gentle" you think you are being. All you are doing is causing her further pain. Stop it.

OP, I am a new poster and one of those "scary" conservative people.

I am sorry you are dealing with this. I would just hold your hand and support you in the decision you felt was right for you and your family.

Hang in there.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am also going to beg you to reconsider. You can love and hold your baby longer, keeping him or her safe under your heart, and then safe in your arms. You can name your baby, dress your baby, kiss and hug your baby. You do not NEED to terminate. Do you know what will happen to your baby during the procedure? There are other options!

There is a perinatal hospice program in northern Virginia:

http://www.tepeyacfamilycenter.com/hospice.htm

T18 babies can be loved. Watch these videos about T18 babies:

http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Remembering-Eliot-The-99-Balloons-Video

http://www.youtube.com/embed/X7LyoAEIskw?rel=0&hd=1

Please, OP, let your baby live a full life, however long that may be!

Not either of the PPs, but I do think these are loving, caring suggestions and are not made by horrible people as some others have suggested. The OP desrves to know all of her options. To call them horrible or ugly is in fact very rude and uncaring to those who may have chosen them. These suggestions were offered very gently and humbly, and were met only with animosity and bile. Way to be champtions of "choice" and "freedom."

OP, whats the surgi clinic? I had a termination in my early 20's at the Womens Surgical Center on PA Avenue in SE. It was terrible. Not the procedure itself (and for the record I have zero regrets about that, Im so tired of anti-choicers talking about my supposed psychological damage. I know at least five women who terminated for not medical reasons and not one of them has any regrets or really even thinks about it ) but the setting, the staff etc were not particularly helpful or kind. that was a long time ago but wanted to put that out there in case you had been directed there. Im sorry you are going through this.

Anonymous wrote:OP here again, I am so sorry 8:56 I didn't mean to ignore your post. The post I was referring to was the one who asked me to keep the baby however long he/she may be living.

No problem, I figured that was the case. No need to apologize.

I terminated my pregnancy at 13.5 weeks for medical reasons at a clinic (in Rockville). The doctor was wonderful and caring, and the procedure went as well as possible under the circumstances. I was able to get pregnant about two months after the termination and my son is now two.
Best of luck during this terrible time.

OP here again, I am so sorry 8:56 I didn't mean to ignore your post. The post I was referring to was the one who asked me to keep the baby however long he/she may be living.

Correction; "for any reason..."

OP here! I am going to ignore the PP's post, but have a question for the rest of you ladies. As a patient of Georgetown hospital I know that they do not perform termination of rant reason. My OB has referred me to Surgi clinic and planned parenthood for terminations this late during the pregnancy (She mentioned that Washington hospital Center also provide the service but not at this stage). As I mentioned before, I decided to make an appointment in NYC because I was more comfortable to be around family and also in a hospital setting for the procedure. I was wondering if anyone here has had the procedure done in a clinic setting though? are they safe? how far along were you when you had the procedure? Any thoughts is appreciated. Thank you.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am also going to beg you to reconsider. You can love and hold your baby longer, keeping him or her safe under your heart, and then safe in your arms. You can name your baby, dress your baby, kiss and hug your baby. You do not NEED to terminate. Do you know what will happen to your baby during the procedure? There are other options!

There is a perinatal hospice program in northern Virginia:

http://www.tepeyacfamilycenter.com/hospice.htm

T18 babies can be loved. Watch these videos about T18 babies:

http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Remembering-Eliot-The-99-Balloons-Video

http://www.youtube.com/embed/X7LyoAEIskw?rel=0&hd=1

Please, OP, let your baby live a full life, however long that may be!

Oh shut up. Do you think she doesn't love her baby? I would argue that she loves her baby so much that she doesn't want the child to undergo any unncessary pain and hurt. She made a decision to do something that is full of mercy and compassion.

OP I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish you the best of luck.

OP, I am also going to beg you to reconsider. You can love and hold your baby longer, keeping him or her safe under your heart, and then safe in your arms. You can name your baby, dress your baby, kiss and hug your baby. You do not NEED to terminate. Do you know what will happen to your baby during the procedure? There are other options!

There is a perinatal hospice program in northern Virginia:

http://www.tepeyacfamilycenter.com/hospice.htm

T18 babies can be loved. Watch these videos about T18 babies:

http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Remembering-Eliot-The-99-Balloons-Video

http://www.youtube.com/embed/X7LyoAEIskw?rel=0&hd=1

Please, OP, let your baby live a full life, however long that may be!

Anonymous wrote:I would beg you to reconsider terminating the life of your little baby. I found out at my ultrasound with my baby at 20 weeks that she had anencephaly, which meant she would not live long if even born alive. I carried her to term and gave birth to her. Angela Marie we named her. Angela lived for three days before dying in my arms. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. She touched so many lives in her very short three days and was so very loved. Do not deprive yourself of this experience. It will be hard, yes, the hardest thing you'll probably ever do. However, to be able to witness to the culture of death that life is beautiful in all it's manifestations is incredible. You do not have to terminate. There is another option.

I have to agree that this poster is a horrible person!

Anonymous wrote:I would beg you to reconsider terminating the life of your little baby. I found out at my ultrasound with my baby at 20 weeks that she had anencephaly, which meant she would not live long if even born alive. I carried her to term and gave birth to her. Angela Marie we named her. Angela lived for three days before dying in my arms. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. She touched so many lives in her very short three days and was so very loved. Do not deprive yourself of this experience. It will be hard, yes, the hardest thing you'll probably ever do. However, to be able to witness to the culture of death that life is beautiful in all it's manifestations is incredible. You do not have to terminate. There is another option.

This is a horrible thing to say to OP. How dare you! I think it's a terrible thing to bring a child into the world knowing they will die soon after. Absolutely HORRIBLE!!!