Anonymous wrote:22:00 here--- and despite what the books say, teaching your child to fall asleep on his or her own is NOT a golden ticket to a good night's sleep. My child was great at going to sleep... but he still woke up every 2-3 hours until I weaned him at 13 months.

This. DS has no problems falling asleep on his own. That doesn't mean he doesn't want to be up ever 3 hours. I think I will have to wean before we get rid of that.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like all it is is a link between an underdeveloped digestive system and crying-- my son is like this- his doctor said he just has an easy gag reflex. Always had. Doesn't mean your son is crying any harder than anyone else's-- he just pukes more easily. If mine tries to hard to poop he throws up- and he's 3 YO.

I disagree with the people who say this isn't a golden ticket. It is. And he's NOT too old. Stick with it.

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You are absolutely insane. If you think there is any such thing as a golden ticket in parenting you have a long road ahead of you.

Sounds like all it is is a link between an underdeveloped digestive system and crying-- my son is like this- his doctor said he just has an easy gag reflex. Always had. Doesn't mean your son is crying any harder than anyone else's-- he just pukes more easily. If mine tries to hard to poop he throws up- and he's 3 YO.

I disagree with the people who say this isn't a golden ticket. It is. And he's NOT too old. Stick with it.

Agree with the PPs. Ferber doesn't work for every child. & it's extremely sad for the babies that are tortured by it. We did the cosleeping, lights off, quiet way of going to bed & acted like we were in a deep sleep if DS1 tried to interact with us in bed. Fwiw, DS2 & DS3 never required anything other than being put in their cribs when tired but not asleep & slept all night. Children can be very different. Good luck, you will definitely miss these days.

Anonymous wrote:Mine too - and it was the last night of Ferber. BELIEVE ME YOUR KIDS WILL SLEEP WITHOUT TORTURING THEM. Just deal with it humanely. This is baby you are talking about. Who knows what imprint you are leaving on their brain by abandoning them to vomit under the guise of "helping" them. This stuff is crazy, really.

I agree with this. Sleep training did not work for us. Even if you sleep train, the child will still wake up due to teething/development/night terrors, etc. It will last 2 weeks. You will drink lots of coffee, and get through it.

Let him sleep in your bed. Have dh sleep in another room if he's a distraction. It won't last forever

Anonymous wrote:Two points in support of cosleeping:

1. It will be over before you know it any you will probably treasure and miss the time you had.

2. When your child tries to play with you at night, curl up into a ball, don't move, and ignore them. They will learn quickly enough that they won't get any interaction with you in the middle of the night. But they will still be with you and won't cry till they vomit.

Same here. This is what finally, FINALLY worked for us. It wasn't in our plan, but you do what you have to do - and anything beats causing your baby to vomit!

Two points in support of cosleeping:

1. It will be over before you know it any you will probably treasure and miss the time you had.

2. When your child tries to play with you at night, curl up into a ball, don't move, and ignore them. They will learn quickly enough that they won't get any interaction with you in the middle of the night. But they will still be with you and won't cry till they vomit.

Cosleeping doesn't work for all babies, either. My first born was similar to yours -- played with us too much to cosleep but also vomited when really upset. What worked for us was having DH take over the sleep routine and night comforting. DD just had an easier time separating from him. He did a variation of the Sleep Lady Shuffle. I also night weaned at that time, around 10 months. After a week of him doing it, I took over again using the same method. I think DD needed a different person to help her break into a new pattern.

Cosleep. Every other country in the world does it. It won't last forever.

Mine too - and it was the last night of Ferber. BELIEVE ME YOUR KIDS WILL SLEEP WITHOUT TORTURING THEM. Just deal with it humanely. This is baby you are talking about. Who knows what imprint you are leaving on their brain by abandoning them to vomit under the guise of "helping" them. This stuff is crazy, really.

Anonymous wrote:Even Dr. Ferber now admits that ferberizing doesn't work for all babies. It certainly didn't for my kids. But, the good news is, that now they sleep through the night every night! I would try co-sleeping again -- I like the idea of a mattress on the floor.

We did this. Why tried sleep training, decided it was not for us, put a mattress in our bedroom, then smoothly moved him to his own room at two; wasn't a big deal.

That said. This may simply not be the right time for your child to sleep train. They change so fast in the first couple years and going the Ferber route in a month or two might be successful.

Even Dr. Ferber now admits that ferberizing doesn't work for all babies. It certainly didn't for my kids. But, the good news is, that now they sleep through the night every night! I would try co-sleeping again -- I like the idea of a mattress on the floor.

we had the same issue, the kid co-sleeped until age 2.5

Where does DH stand on this? Is he supportive? Can you get away for the night and let him manage your son? Sounds like you REALLY need a good night's sleep - or at least 6 hours in a row! If you had a night to yourself you may have much more energy the next day, even if your son's sleep patterns don't improve. In any case, best of luck. This too shall pass.