Why was any previous visitation supervised? And you say that he recently moved back, How far away was he and for how long. Yes he may not have seen the child but you are leaving out some important details.

PP yes he does want to just come and not have supervised visits. And this is my issue. Like I said before I have done all possible for him to see his child.

What chaos and stress has he brought? it isn't clear what the issue is. has he asked to see the child in the month since he has been in state? Is he asking to see the child unsupervised? Why is he saying you aren't letting him see the child?

I don't think anyone excepts you to hand the child over to a stranger but I don't get a sense of what the issue is if you have never denied him a supervised visit yet he is causing chaos...

22:46 thanks for understanding.
PP yes I will look into the VA legal aid , I remember seein that before .

Will keep you all posted on what happens . Good vibes and thoughts are appreciate it .

Anonymous wrote:Thanks 12:15 I am in Va. I will look into those for now.
I haven't recieved a summons yet, but Iam preparing myself and seeing what my choices are.
I have to do what is best for my child and want to make sure he is not doing this just to cause drama in my life.

Use Google to look for pro bono family law in VA. From an initial glance there are several organizations that may be able to provide similar services depending on where you live. There's one in Fairfax, there's VA Legal Aid (valegalaid.org), but there are conditions for who qualifies for assistance. In VA, you need more information about the specific situation to know where to go to find affordable legal assistance.

OP, you didn't say: did you get legal assistance yet? Did you talk to a lawyer or use one of the groups that a PP mentioned for advice?

Ugh, these parents who are just saying "give your kid to some douche just because he's the biological father" are idiots. Either you've never been in this situation or you've been the negligent biological parent yourself.

OP * patience and trust

OP . Thank you for those who understood and giving me helpful tools.
I understand that there are women out there that deny their children the right to see their fathers. Iam def. not one of them and just hope for my child to have a normal relationship with her father but it must be done with patients and trust.
When you don't live with that person for a while it takes time to trust that he will make the best choices for our child.
And this is my only reason for keeping my sole custody.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks 12:15 I am in Va. I will look into those for now.
I haven't recieved a summons yet, but Iam preparing myself and seeing what my choices are.
I have to do what is best for my child and want to make sure he is not doing this just to cause drama in my life.

I really don't mean to be rude, but why would you assume his motive is to cause you harm? I would assume it's b/c he wants to see his child. Since you've always been willing to let him do spend time with the child (even if that has never transpired), I suggest you at least approach it this way. Suggest an outing with the three of you. Won't be comfortable for you, I'm sure, but it will give you a chance to size things up. If you go in with the attitude of you're going to ensure he's cut off and he has to earn the trust, you're not going to win over a judge. Dad has parental rights too.

Thanks 12:15 I am in Va. I will look into those for now.
I haven't recieved a summons yet, but Iam preparing myself and seeing what my choices are.
I have to do what is best for my child and want to make sure he is not doing this just to cause drama in my life.