Anonymous wrote:I've actually found OKC to be pretty good at sending me profiles of people who I find interesting. Their algorithm is good that way, I think. Attractive, though? Unfortunately not. And a lot of them live REALLY far from me.
I've gotten a bunch of guys messaging me, and I can honestly say that I don't find 95% of them attractive. a lot of them are heavy, and a lot of them just look older than me, by a lot. I work out daily and people assume i'm younger than my actual 40, so "old-looking chubby guy" doesn't really appeal to me. I've only met one actual guy through the service. he was cute and nice and as tall as he claimed BUT still had a wife and a lot of issues I decided were deal-breakers a few dates in. We stayed friends, though.
I'm on match and find that the men who they match me with look really old. I'm 45 but people think I'm 38/39. Of course, I've shown my girlfriends some of the guys on match and they think they look old too. Maybe women age better than men?
I haven't had much luck on match. I've received a lot of sleazy emails or IM's, been on a few dates - one guy was truly a nice, normal guy but no sparks.
At this stage, I'm pretty discouraged about online dating. Dating in your 40s sucks!!!!