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Anonymous wrote:I got cheapo earrings this year for MD; it was my anniversary too. This was a major step up for my husband so I tried to be really gushy and have worn them every day. We went to a diner for breakfast, then I made lunch and dinner and entertained the kids most of the day. Today, for FD, he slept much of the day; I took the kids to breakfast then to the car wash then to shoe shopping and lunch. After kids' naps and me doing the grocery shopping, we all went to the pool. Then I made dinner. Oh yes, and his gift was an Ipad. Not sure how I rate on your scale of lousy wives etc. Right now I'm sitting thru the nightly horror show of putting our 3yo to bed; he won't sleep unless someone is sitting out side his door. Husband is watching a game. Seems to me he got a better FD, but maybe I'm just

says it all

I have to say I agree. At first I was thinking, "her anniversary of WHAT??" And then I realized.

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Anonymous wrote:I got nothing for mother's day. Posted about it, wondering what to do because he was hinting around that he expected something for father's day. I wasn't trying to get revenge, it was more what message this was sending, that it's OK to treat me like I don't matter but it's OK for you to be celebrated.

I was the bigger person as you phrased it. My daughter and I decorated a card for him, I got him a gift, we went out to his choice of a restaurant, and amped up my daughter to yell "Happy Father's Day, I love you!" the minute he came down this morning. We went for a bike ride (his choice), went out to lunch (his choice) and I really made the day about him.

I was fine with this, truly. But at the end of the day I asked him if he had a nice day. He said yes. I said, "and that's pretty much how we should do mother's day too in the future, OK?" He agreed and it turned out not to be a big deal.

Oh, sad for you.

Don't be sad for me, thanks though.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got nothing for mother's day. Posted about it, wondering what to do because he was hinting around that he expected something for father's day. I wasn't trying to get revenge, it was more what message this was sending, that it's OK to treat me like I don't matter but it's OK for you to be celebrated.

I was the bigger person as you phrased it. My daughter and I decorated a card for him, I got him a gift, we went out to his choice of a restaurant, and amped up my daughter to yell "Happy Father's Day, I love you!" the minute he came down this morning. We went for a bike ride (his choice), went out to lunch (his choice) and I really made the day about him.

I was fine with this, truly. But at the end of the day I asked him if he had a nice day. He said yes. I said, "and that's pretty much how we should do mother's day too in the future, OK?" He agreed and it turned out not to be a big deal.

Doormat. You really expect him to remember and follow through on this? Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. He did nothing for Mother's Day and he got a great Father's Day. Why should he change a thing?

I'm sorry people in your life disappoint you so much.

Are there really this many men out there who are fucking clueless on Mothers Day?

Anonymous wrote:I didn't get anything for mother's day, but there was nothing that I wanted.
For Father's Day, I arranged to take DS to his gymnastics class (which DH always complains about having to take him to) to give DH time to himself. DH freaked out and said that I was undercutting him and he wanted to go to the class. It was too late, unfortunately, because DS wanted to go with me at that point. Oh well.

Uhmmmmm...couldn't you both have gone with DS?

I didn't get anything for mother's day, but there was nothing that I wanted.
For Father's Day, I arranged to take DS to his gymnastics class (which DH always complains about having to take him to) to give DH time to himself. DH freaked out and said that I was undercutting him and he wanted to go to the class. It was too late, unfortunately, because DS wanted to go with me at that point. Oh well.

Anonymous wrote:I got nothing for mother's day. Posted about it, wondering what to do because he was hinting around that he expected something for father's day. I wasn't trying to get revenge, it was more what message this was sending, that it's OK to treat me like I don't matter but it's OK for you to be celebrated.

I was the bigger person as you phrased it. My daughter and I decorated a card for him, I got him a gift, we went out to his choice of a restaurant, and amped up my daughter to yell "Happy Father's Day, I love you!" the minute he came down this morning. We went for a bike ride (his choice), went out to lunch (his choice) and I really made the day about him.

I was fine with this, truly. But at the end of the day I asked him if he had a nice day. He said yes. I said, "and that's pretty much how we should do mother's day too in the future, OK?" He agreed and it turned out not to be a big deal.

Oh, sad for you.

Anonymous wrote:I got nothing for mother's day. Posted about it, wondering what to do because he was hinting around that he expected something for father's day. I wasn't trying to get revenge, it was more what message this was sending, that it's OK to treat me like I don't matter but it's OK for you to be celebrated.

I was the bigger person as you phrased it. My daughter and I decorated a card for him, I got him a gift, we went out to his choice of a restaurant, and amped up my daughter to yell "Happy Father's Day, I love you!" the minute he came down this morning. We went for a bike ride (his choice), went out to lunch (his choice) and I really made the day about him.

I was fine with this, truly. But at the end of the day I asked him if he had a nice day. He said yes. I said, "and that's pretty much how we should do mother's day too in the future, OK?" He agreed and it turned out not to be a big deal.

Doormat. You really expect him to remember and follow through on this? Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. He did nothing for Mother's Day and he got a great Father's Day. Why should he change a thing?

Got to sleep in and have coffee in bed for Mother's Day. School-aged kids made me a card.

Hubby slept in (ok...I slept too). Made him coffee, but he had to come help with the machine. THen we topped it off with FD dinner for all the men in my family at my house. Of course, during this dinner, I asked my hubby to go on a 2-hour CraigsList furniture run.

Our expectations are non-existent for these "holidays", so whether minimal or maximum effort, it's all good with both of us.

I got crapola for Mothers' Day and I went above and beyond for Fathers' Day, and DH got the point. He kept saying things like, "And I didn't do anything for you for Mothers' Day," and I'd respond like, "Oh well, you can keep that in mind for next year - hint hint!" Sheesh, men.

My husband got me a card for mothers day and let me sleep in, but I forgot it was fathers days yesterday. Whoops.

Nada for Mother’s Day, nor did DH do anything for our anniversary, which was soon after. I wallowed for a while and decided that I could either do nothing, out of some punishing resentment, and be filled with anger, or be the bigger person and do something nice. I chose the latter, because I figured that with the former, I’d be stewing all weekend and he’d likely not notice and it was too nice of a weekend to be mad.
So, I made it kind of a FD weekend. First, I made a commitment to myself that I would not complain or nag him for one single thing. Then, I took the kinds out early Saturday morning so he could sleep in, arrnaged to meet up at brunch at his favorite place (where I had very hot soup spilled down my back by the waitress, but that’s another story), I did naptimes while he read the paper, we both went to the park, and then I made homemade pizza for dinner and cleaned up and we watched a movie of his choice. On Sunday,I got the kids up and fed and dressed, got us packed up for a hike which DH loves to do, then asked him what he wanted to do after, which was go to the marina and sit out and have lunch/beers on the water. Did that, then I took the kids for a 3 hour walk/park, while he watched golf, then I came home, we did baths/bedtime together, then I made a nice dinner (fresh pasta with scallops, proscuitto and spinach, homemade caesar salad), cleaned up, and then we had sex (and yes, there was a bj too). That night he said it was the best father’s day ever, and that he realized that he’d messed up for mother’s day, and that what I wanted/needed was not a present, but the kind of weekend I gave him, with fun activities, and some time off .
So, in the end, it was win-win.

Me ex husband was too busy doing a father's day golf/drinking binge to spend time with the kids yesterday. He finally came over at 7 PM to take them to dinner. Didn't come to the door (I should have been suspicious) When he came up on the porch to return them to me I could smell him, he smelled like a brewery.

I had purchased a DVD and card for him that my daughter picked out, and wrapped his present.

"Remember that DD needs to love him, even if he's an ass". Repeat over and over and over again.

was he driving your kids drunk??!!!