Anonymous wrote:Agree on some rules with your DH now. You don't have to tell them to MIL right away because they might be off-putting. But rules like no dropping by without calling first. No using her key to enter your house if it's not already planned that she'd be over.

This could be great for you. Loving childcare and time off for

you.

Anonymous wrote:We moved 3 blocks away from her. Also divorced and lonely, though she is usually upbeat and not super bitter, although she often plays the martyr. We were very nervous about the move since she didnt always get along with DH and she criticized our parenting regula

rly.


However, its been great. We see her about once a week, but since she's so close, the visits are usually pretty short - less than an hr, sometimes only 15 mins to visit the kids. She's also always available to help. Our relationship has definitely improved since the move.